Two Showers in One day... too much??

rhsdiplomanic25

Since the wedding will be held in fort worth where all the family and friends are and my FI and I live out of state now we have to cram everything we can into just a few weekends when i will be able to come into town. My question is .... we plan to have the bridal shower on a saturday and then that night go out to dinner at a fun mexican restaurant (Joe T's) and go downtown for a little bachelorette party... my sister thinks that we should do a lingerie shower type thing at the restaurant before we go out but i feel like this may be too much to ask people to come to the bridal shower and then purchase another small fun gift for later that night. I'm just not sure... is it too much? Should we just go out and have a good time? I honestly could care less about the lingerie but my sis thinks it would be fun.... 

Jay+Marissa

Hmmm...I don't know. Personally, I wouldn't be offended, but I could see some people thinking it is overkill. What about having the bach party on Friday night, so at least it isn't a full day of festivities...

Donnaaries

I think same day might be overkill, I like Marissa's suggestion.  You could just make your shower a personal/bridal shower so people can either bring traditional registry stuff or more "personal" stuff.

mandasue178

I agree with PP's. While I wouldn't be offended, you're pretty much asking people to give up their entire day for you. I'd try to do the bach party either Friday night, or just come into town another weekend. I've been to the combo personal/normal shower, and it was ok, but I really didn't want my grandmothers seeing me open that stuff. Needless to say we did them separately!

tc1016

I'm in a similar position (our wedding is out of state), and my MOH is planning my shower and bachelorette party on the same day.  A lot of people will be traveling for it (either driving an hour and a half, taking a train, or even flying in), so I feel like it's easier on them to travel once rather than twice. I also expect a LOT of people will be staying over at the house that night!  In terms of gifts, maybe you could suggest to your sister she should spread the word  to your friends who are attending both showers only bring a gift to one?

Mariah09202008

Honestly?  I had to do this.  We had my bridal shower that my sister threw in the early afternoon and then later that night my BM took me out with a few friends to do a bachelorette party.  I think a lot of it had to do with that weekend being the only good weekend for my sister to throw me a party because she's a teacher.  It wasn't the ideal situation, but oh well.  What can you do?  But I also didn't expect any gifts at my bachelorette...whatever was given was just icing on the cake and really appreciated.

juliebug1997

I've been thinking about it and I would just have your bachelorette party be just that with no lingerie shower (unless that's what everyone really wants to do).  I also don't think I would be very comfortable opening up lingerie in public but that's just me.

fallbride1109

I agree with Julie.  I had a lingerie shower after dinner in my hotel room and while that was a blast, I would not have wanted to combine the two.  But I don't think the shower/bach party combo is too much.  Just leave out the lingerie party, or make your bachelorette party a lingerie shower at another location, like I did.  It was really fun.