I hate June weddings

Jay+Marissa

Weird coming from a soon-to-be June bride, I know, but this is getting old!

I've never wanted to be the stereotypical "June Bride" and summer is my least favorite season--I'd much prefer fall or winter. It's going to be so freakin' hot, and everything is overbooked and expensive. But we had to get married after graduation, and before I start my job, so it came down to two weekends in June. And of course, I ended up picking the day my brother graduates from high school.

Did anyone else pick June because they had to, or am I the only anti-June bride actually getting married in the month?

Sorry for the rant--I'm just pissed because I am missing friend's weddings because they are all slammed into June, and some people I invited to the wedding, including the lady I asked to sing at our wedding mass because I am close to her, have RSVPed no my wedding (or reception at least) because they are going to the wedding of some girl who graduated from the hs program before me who is getting married later that evening.

Why would you tell me on the RSVP that you aren't coming because you are going to another wedding?

llc2011

Sorry Marissa! That really stinks that there is another wedding on your same day with mutual guests, but I know you will still have a great time!

I've been pretty lucky with friends' wedding being spaced out (out of 7 invites last year, only 2 were in the same month and those were 2 weeks apart) and have actually never been to a wedding in June.

juliebug1997

I picked May because we were trying to hurry up and get married.  We could have done Mother's Day weekend or Memorial Day weekend.  I decided that I needed to be there for the kids during finals. 

I can tell you that, if Bill had asked earlier than Thanksgiving, we would have gotten married earlier as well.  I know that planning the wedding over my summer break would have made things much easier but I didn't want to get married in August and getting married during the early part of the school year, Homecoming or near the week of the big football game with our rival would have made my life a living hell.  Bill kind of vetoed Christmas time because he was pretty sure his parents would throw a fit about it.  Then, we wouldn't be getting married unti Jan/Feb.  I just couldn't see that it made any sense for us to wait that long. 

My dad kept trying to get me to do June but I said that I never had ambitions to be a June bride.  It's a cliche IMO that I didn't need.

Donnaaries

I'm sorry to hear that Marissa

May sucks too though.  We only picked it because my mom is a college professor (either May or August, and I wanted outdoor ceremony) and we've had a bunch of guests who are attending college graduations of their brothers/sisters/sons/daughters RSVP no. 

There is probably never a perfect month...

MissAngel

I hear ya!  I picked May because it was 2 weeks after FI's graduation from Pharm School and all the other months were "no good" (according to FMIL) so we had 2 weekends left so we chose Memorial Day Weekend for the extra travel day... Well... I found out last week that my cousin decided to get married the same day! Even though I picked it way before she was even engaged and as I was engaged for 2.5 years?!?  How was I supposed to know to broadcast it to the world where we have never done Save the Dates for my family... Ugh.. so now I get half the family's attendance.

emimayor

There really never is a good month. Someone or something will make an excuse of why a time you pick is never good.

I chose June because we were already bordering on a too long engagement (for me) and I refused to be a sweaty bride on my wedding day. So I chose January, which I figured would be eay for everyone.

Well, then I had to schedule around the Superbowl and playoffs. My MIL was also convinced it was going to ice over and the day would be ruined. Whatever.

On your wedding day, you won't care. Especially, when you're in Hawaii and we arent.

amberpro

Haha!  I hear you all on the cliche... I can't count the number of times I hear, "Oh!  You're a June bride!"  It's ok by me though.   I can see how it would cause problems with people who are having an engagement less than a year.  I also heard, "You June brides are always on the ball," a thousand times.  

I actually chose my date because I'm a teacher.  School is out June 4th, then I have a week off before the wedding.  

sparklingdiamond

I am kinda with you there!  I didn't pick the summer because of how hot it gets here!  But I know your wedding will still be beautiful!

emimayor

Oops! Correction...I chose January...not June.

serlace

Oh bummer - Marissa - sorry to hear you are so stressed.  Your wedding will be wonderful, so I hope you don't let all of this bring you down.

amber+richard05

Marissa, I am right there with you. I HATE (yes it needs to be capitalized for emphasis) summer, I never wanted to have a wedding in summer. I hated the fact that some of my family can't come because of Graduations.

Shot atleast they responded not even half of my guest have RSVPed so I have to make phone calls all this week. Grr.
 I feel your pain though and feel the urge to scream, and now I am dealing with some vendor drama to top it all off. Only 2 1/2 weeks till it is over with, and 3 till I am in Mexico on the beach, uh can't wait!

Jay+Marissa

Amber + Richard--what is your wedding date?

MissAngel--I'm so sorry! That beats any whining I've done.

Thanks for listening everyone!

MsLaura31

I was kinda forced into June, too... My mom is a teacher and my best friend is graduating from Med school... I wanted late April or early May. Oh well.

At least we had more than enough time to book vendors early!

Jay+Marissa

I wonder if there is something to "June brides being on top of the ball"--I had to book everything 1 to 1.5 years early to get where and who I wanted

bethlovesjim

I never realized there was a cliche to the "June" bride. But it makes sense!  May and June are big wedding months. That combined with Mothers day, Fathers day, graduations, new jobs, and of course there are birthdays in there somewhere. I can see how it can be stressful! 

We are looking into a first weekend in July wedding.  I dont mind the heat. But I wonder if I will have the same stresses.   So far my cousin who had been planning an October wedding for over a year, just decided to mover her wedding to June (two weeks before the date I want).  This was very frustrating. mostly because its hard to get our family together, and I know they will show for hers, since its "first".

Well. I say just enjoy your day.  Its going to be you and your FI. and that is all that matters.  Its going to be a wonderful day, no matter what month its in

Jay+Marissa

I'd caution her against moving to June--I have to book everything so far in advance!

bethlovesjim

She moved it from Oct 2010 to June 2011. So she has plenty of time.  I kinda feel bad that she had to move it further away.  I know that would pi$$ me off! especially since she has been planning the wedding for like a year now.

tam427

We picked June out of necessity as well. My fiancee has younger sisters and nieces and nephews that are school-aged and they live in Illinois. Summer was literally the only time they would be able to come down, since they have different Spring breaks and we didn't want to cut into any holidays. Most of his family will be driving as well, so they would need a couple of days just to get here.

amber+richard05

Marissa- June 5th..

linzcw04

I'm right behind ya Marissa - June 18th....I picked June really just out of the air. I didn't want rain so that kind of had a role in picking June. I had no idea the cliche that was involved nor the stress/extra money/ect. But...I'm fairly happy with it - don't really mind being called a "June bride."
And I do think that because of that we (June brides) are naturally "On top of the ball" - all of my major venders were picked out at least a year to 10 months in advance. FI never understood that but now I think he does. At least we will both be inside for the weddings! No sweat no sweat no sweat! lol

tiffnrich2010

I've never heard of the "June Bride" cliche haha! I chose June because it was either MAY,JUNE, or JULY...May is FI's bday (tomorrow actually) and he didn't want to share his "month" haha..and our 2nd choice was July 17th but with my son starting Kindergarten in August I felt we'd be too rushed with the wedding, honeymoon, and getting him ready for school...SO we chose June..and then June 19th is my granpa's bday (he'll be 82) so we chose that day!