Hi everyone, I was hoping for a little input so my FI and I can settle this once and for all...We've chosen to have a chic, very small destination wedding at a resort, with only 12 guests (our closest family members). This is my second marriage and his first. We'll be having a cake & cocktails reception a few months after the wedding to include everyone else, but even that will be simple. While I have a small family who will understand my teeny, tiny wedding, he comes from a large, tight-knit Jewish family. Weddings are typically a really big deal, so we'll be breaking the mold with our choice to get married privately. I am inclined to put together a simple registry to make it easier for the people who choose to buy us gifts. People are going to know we're getting married, even if they don't get an invite. We wouldn't announce our registry, but I'd like to have it set up if they ask. He thinks that it's rude for us to register if we're not going to invite all of our family and friends. He's concerned that we would be further offending any relatives who may be upset they weren't invited to the wedding. However, his mother believes we should register. Would people want to bring gifts for the cake & cocktails reception? That will be about 150 people. Suggestions? We're not *fighting* about this, but it's got to get resolved soon!