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    What kind of feedback are you looking for?

    If you want opinions on honeymoon registries most people on here, myself included, think they are tacky.  Most registries take a portion of the money your guests give you as a fee.  I personally would not feel comfortable asking my guests to fund my fancy vacation. 

    Also, it doesn't make sense to me to encourage shower guests to contribute to your honeymoon registry.  Traditionally almost all guests bring boxed gifts to a shower.  I think you will get a lot of random presents if you only have a honeymoon registry for the shower.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_honeymoon-registry-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:2074dfca-f4e1-4ab7-b60d-59cf9cbba93cPost:25efb0e0-2707-4b3a-8d31-aa36e0f153df">Re: Honeymoon Registry</a>:
    [QUOTE]  Also, it doesn't make sense to me to encourage shower guests to contribute to your honeymoon registry.  Traditionally almost all guests bring boxed gifts to a shower.  I think you will get a lot of random presents if you only have a honeymoon registry for the shower.
    Posted by SaraAndrew2010[/QUOTE]

    <div>This.  A shower is for tangible gifts, not cash, checks, gifts cards or anything like that.  You're better off putting the other registry cards for household items in your shower invites.</div><div>
    </div><div>Absolutely NO registry cards should go in your wedding invitation, none at all.</div>
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    Most people consider honeymoon registries tacky, for a variety of reasons.

    If you insist on having this thing anyway, you need to have a traditional registry in addition.  Your shower guests are going to want to give you physical gifts, so your shower host should include info about the traditional registry if she chooses to include registry information.  
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_honeymoon-registry-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:2074dfca-f4e1-4ab7-b60d-59cf9cbba93cPost:6f155434-bfc9-430c-854a-3959168f0b49">Re: Honeymoon Registry</a>:
    [QUOTE]Absolutely NO registry cards should go in your wedding invitation, none at all.
    Posted by pandasquishy[/QUOTE]

    She said she was putting them in the bridal shower invites.

    I think as long as you are doing another "traditional" registry, which it sounds like you are, then go for it. I'm doing a honeymoon registry as well, but you will get a lot of opinions on this one. If you think the people invited to your shower are ok with it, then don't worry. Everyone I've talked to has said it's a really cool idea. Which one did you go with?
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    You really shouldn't be a part of any showers at all.  If people want to throw them for you that's great, but that's up for the hostess and not you to do.

    As for the honeymoon registry, IMO, if you don't want "stuff" I'd decline any showers.
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    Sarah Andrew-
                     We are not using one of those websites, we have made our own. We are also not having a huge expensive fancy honeymoon. I obviously would not ask people to fund an expensive trip. We are driving down the coast for a couple days.

    Pandasquishy-
                     Who says what gifts you can ask for? Either way I'm picking things out and asking people to buy them for me. We like to travel, the bridal shower is a travel theme, so it makes sense to have a honeymoon registry.


    My Name is Not-

                       We are also registered at target. At the bridal shower, we are having a travel theme and pictures and postcards of our honeymoon spot. Guests can decide whether or not they participate.


    Shadow-

                     I have a very close extended family and I do feel they will be fine with it. We didn't go with a business, we made our own website. I thought it was cool too.


    Banana-

                    I am not throwing my own shower. I am having a say in it though. Why do I have to want "stuff"? What good is stuff? Can't a bay cruise or nice dinner be a gift? A gift is about the experience and joy, I would rather hear a story about someones cruise than about the time they made coffee with the coffee pot I bought them. It seemed nice to share our trip with my family, since we are close and then be able to bring back pictures that mean something to them.

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    A shower IS about "stuff".  It's not just about a party FOR you.  It's about watching you open up  your presents.  If you don't want "stuff" then there's nothing for the guests to see -and thus you decline the shower.
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    How did you make your own website?

    Do your guest see how much certain items- e.g. dinner at X- cost and then submit their credit card info?  Or are you asking them to give you the dollar amount that the items cost?
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    While I think the things/activities on your website look like so much fun- I think the forwardness is too much.  You arent really asking guests to help plan your honeymoon- like the home page says- you've already planned everything and just want money.  It'd be better- IMO- to just spread through word of mouth that'd you'd appreciate cash more than anything for your wedding gift.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_honeymoon-registry-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:2074dfca-f4e1-4ab7-b60d-59cf9cbba93cPost:ec033d1f-1c1f-4f44-a472-bd74900e2ac1">Re: Honeymoon Registry</a>:
    [QUOTE]It is for be, I am the bride and it is a BRIDAL shower, the gifts are whatever I want them to be since I pick them out. Who are you to even distinguish! You did not event bridal showers. "Stuff" or activities, it's still a gift!
    Posted by friendlypeanut[/QUOTE]

    WOW.  You are such a pill.  How gross and disgusting.  Sounds like you've got a good head of Bridezilla steam in there!
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    edited March 2010
    I'm usually on the fence about HM registries. I just really don't care that much, but I took a look at your site and wow. You even asked for ice cream and clothes. I'm sorry, but my initial reaction was "barf".  Yuck.
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    Wow.  Basic honeymoon registries are tacky enough, but this is just awful.  

    You should be embarrassed.
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    Wow. That website is terribly tacky and rude! Why the heck would I want to buy you clothes for your honeymoon? A regular HM registry is bad enough, but this one makes me want to vomit.

    I hope you don't go this bridezilla on your FI. If you do, I pity that poor man!
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    Wow! I am not about gifts at all! The reason I said it was about me is because someone made a comment that the shower is about gifts, not the bride.

    I put little expenses on there some  people didnt feel like they had to spend a lot.

    There are a lot of things on there to provide a variety.

     i think asking for cash is a little more forward than an activity.

    I am not a bridzilla, I'm very mellow and easy going with this wedding actually

    I asked for opinions, not insults so if you're a bitch, dont respond!
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    The thing is, unless someone is actually handing these things to you, it's a registry for cash.

    Yes, a shower is about the bride...and it's also about the gifts FOR her.

    Remember, you asked what people thought and now they're telling you what they think of the idea.  If all these strangers are saying this, perhaps it's not a very nice thing to use profanity.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_honeymoon-registry-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:2074dfca-f4e1-4ab7-b60d-59cf9cbba93cPost:b2a3f224-1597-4baf-ab21-9eaae02c2040">Re: Honeymoon Registry</a>:
    [QUOTE]A shower IS about "stuff".  It's not just about a party FOR you.  It's about watching you open up  your presents.  If you don't want "stuff" then there's nothing for the guests to see -and thus you decline the shower.
    Posted by banana468[/QUOTE]

    <div>THIS.  People go to showers to watch you open gifts, things that you can use with your DH in your new life together.  People don't go to watch you open envelopes.</div><div>
    </div><div>I'd also like to add: <em>You're an adult, buy your own damn clothes!</em></div>
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    Although I don't particularly love honeymoon registries,  I generally don't think they are the worst thing a couple can do and I understand that they're not controversial in many circles.

    But asking for Forever 21 and Baskin Robbins gift cards really, really crosses a line IMO. 
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_honeymoon-registry-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:2074dfca-f4e1-4ab7-b60d-59cf9cbba93cPost:4926dd62-4586-4c81-b8ea-513ff40484f9">Re: Honeymoon Registry</a>:
    [QUOTE]Pandasquishy- And who paid for your wedding?
    Posted by friendlypeanut[/QUOTE]

    Huh? Hello random overdefensiveness.



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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_honeymoon-registry-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:2074dfca-f4e1-4ab7-b60d-59cf9cbba93cPost:2aefa865-5648-4297-b7ad-da8b41d95b73">Re: Honeymoon Registry</a>:
    [QUOTE]Wow! I am not about gifts at all! The reason I said it was about me is because someone made a comment that the shower is about gifts, not the bride. I put little expenses on there some  people didnt feel like they had to spend a lot. There are a lot of things on there to provide a variety.  i think asking for cash is a little more forward than an activity. I am not a bridzilla, I'm very mellow and easy going with this wedding actually I asked for opinions, not insults so if you're a bitch, dont respond!
    Posted by friendlypeanut[/QUOTE]

    You've so just convinced me that you're not a bridezilla.  Totally. Buuut, I guess I'm the bitch for saying you are.  Or... something like that?  I don't think you have the greatest comprehension though, so I shouldn't really be surprised.
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    I can't find where Beatles quoted where she asked me who paid for my wedding?  Did she delete that post?

    Regardless, I don't see how that's relevant at all.
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    I think a few posts were DD'd.  You can always go back and edit or DD posts in a thread - you just can't DD the entire thing.
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    I'm only a biitch about 23% of the time, BUT I do think that your wierdo website is beyond vomit inducing, so am I allowed to respond?
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_honeymoon-registry-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:2074dfca-f4e1-4ab7-b60d-59cf9cbba93cPost:37b373f9-51c4-4aa3-84bf-55befede2af2">Re: Honeymoon Registry</a>:
    [QUOTE]I can't find where Beatles quoted where she asked me who paid for my wedding?  Did she delete that post? Regardless, I don't see how that's relevant at all.
    Posted by pandasquishy[/QUOTE]

    She must have deleted it. Which is a totally worthwhile action once you've been quoted.<img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-undecided.gif" border="0" alt="Undecided" title="Undecided" />



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    She ended up completely editing her first post. Honestly, if you can't handle the truth, don't ask.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_honeymoon-registry-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:2074dfca-f4e1-4ab7-b60d-59cf9cbba93cPost:e7120d0a-038e-4b27-8b8d-1cee4901c6cb">closed</a>:
    [QUOTE]cant figure out how to delete it
    Posted by friendlypeanut[/QUOTE]

    That's cause you can't genius.  Plus, your original post has been copied, as have most of your responses.  So, you can go through and delete what you wrote, but not what people copied!  Ah, I love the quote function.
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    I'm not a bitch at all, but I'm embarrassed for you. 
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    could someone please post her honeymoon registry. i could use a good laugh this morning.
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    jkhoneymoon.weebly.com
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    thanks. and definitely have to say (not trying to be rude) that this is something that SHOULDN'T be done. it seems as though she has everything on there except flight/cruise tickets. i mean is this for real? how could anyone think it is OK to ask for their entire honeymoon to be paid for in full by their wedding GUESTS.
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    Not that this isn't tacky enough, but registering for groceries and ice cream?! wow.
    dont make ur password so easy. gbck2CA2 hahahaha
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