Register if not having a ceremony?

futuremrsbradley2012

Hello!  My future husband and I have decided to get married at the court house, then have a barbeque/party in my hometown with family and friends to celebrate.  My question is, do we still register?  I am not expecting gifts, and definitely not expecting a shower.  I don't want people to feel like they have to buy gifts, but I don't want to end up with a bunch of stuff I don't want.  Please help!  Thanks!

futurepivko

I would also do a small one......what can it hurt?

Hellokatie0517

Eh, I don't think I would register if I were to have a courthouse ceremony.  I would think with a courthouse ceremony you are forfeiting the opportunity for all pre-wedding parties which generally calls for a registry.  That's just me though. 

stever

People are coming to celebrate with you so many will probably want to bring gifts. WIth that in mind, a small registry might be nice.

futuremrsbradley2012

Thanks for all of your suggestions.  My mom said what most of you said about creating a small registry.  She also, however; said that if my aunt threw me a shower and I declined the offer my aunt would be really offended and hurt.  My FI and I just want this to be as uncomplicated as possible...we want the focus to be on family and friends and the MARRIAGE, not the "politics" of weddings.

vegprincess

Definitely make a registry - even if it's not "advertised" to people coming to the reception, people may want to get you something.  A friend of mine had a court house ceremony and then her reception almost a year later - they made a registry before the reception and no one thought it was weird.  We were friends and co-workers and people at work grouped together to get her a gift.  We thought it was fun even though she'd technically been married for about a year.