I don't want to register. But I do...

Belle2Be

Ok, so I don't want to register for anything, we're having a destination wedding that will cost anyone who comes $$, and I can't expect them to bring a gift as well. Basically, their presence is enough for me. However, I love the "job" of registering, going out with my FI and having the little gun and scanning everything we could ever imagine in our lives LOL. My FMIL is also very insistant that we register somewhere. Should we register for a few small things and just give the name and place to MIL to spread the news about as she wishes? Or refuse to register at all? Or make a fake name so we can run around and scan things LOL?

marissa_claire

I think people always assume they don't need things, but I think it's worth a try to just literally go look around a store and make a mental wish list.  There's so many things out there that you would never buy for yourself or maybe need an upgrade of, so I don't think it's terrible to register even if you aren't convninced you need lots of things.  A small registry is just fine!

rknox88

You MUST make an opportunity to scan some things-is is so much fun!

I say create a registry with just a few items on it so you and FI can get the experience at least-and the feeling of being a bad ass while walking around the store with a scanner in your hand.

Plus, it will please FMIL and those guests who would like to go above and beyond by buying you guys a gift will know what you need/want.

samscsi

I think a small registry is a good idea.  It's wonderful that you're being thoughtful of your guests for a destination wedding, but if any of them do want to get you a gift, or someone you invited can't come and would like to give a gift instead, a registry will be helpful.  Also, if someone ends up throwing you a shower, a registry will be helpful.

ehathewa

I think a small registry would be nice.  I am sure there are a few things that you could use like some nice mathcing dishes, glasses, fluffy towels, etc. 

Lisa50

Go ahead and register.  Are there some high-end things for your kitchen or master BR/bath you wouldn't dare buy yourself, but would love to have?  There are always some guests who want to give a gift, even if you don't want anything.  SO ... it's better to get something you want/need, rather than something you'll put in the back of a closet. 

And, this is coming from someone who has been insisting I won't register, but my pals on the Second Weddings board have convinced me I need to do it.

skippylouwho

Start with a small registry, if people buy that stuff then add some more.

lilianne22

At least make a small registry, there are some people that will likely want to get you a gift.  Just think of items you have that could be upgraded (example:  A new set of dishes to replace mismatched ones) and put them on there.

Belle2Be

Great thanks ladies!

katherine.c.johns

Register. This is the only time in your life that people are going to buy these things for you. You might not think you need an upgrade on anything now, but in ten years you might be sorry!