Ok, not really. But I'm uber frustrated right now.
We agreed when we picked a venue, that we would keep the guest list down to 150. I communicated this to my parents easily, and they had no problems with that.
We sat down and created a guest list together before we even booked out venue, and we had about 150. Well, FI neglects to share the important bit of information with his family that we are keeping it down to 150. So, his family has gone over the count inviting friends and family from their side.
A side note, my mom is being nice enough to buy, create, print, and send out all the invitations for us. She's done this all at home, on her printer. I asked him to have a guest list together by a certain date. That didn't happen. So he finally got them all together, and it's more than expected. We are going to end up inviting 175 people. Luckily my mom bought a larger set of invitations than we needed, in case she messed some up with the printing or whatnot. Well she used all but 2.
As of today, she has them all finished, put together, and addressed to be mailed out TOMORROW. FI forwards me an email this morning from his father with 5 more people on it that he wants to invite. (5 and guest, so 10 more people). I about blew a gasket. I told him my mom only has 2 invitations left, and he suggested we go out and buy 3 cheap invitations from walmart or something and make them ourselves and send them out. Hm, ok. He doesn't understand you can't just buy 3 wedding invitations, you have to buy a whole box. And then print them all, and make the maps, and buy stamps, etc. All for 3 extra people, that are FI's dad's friends!?!?
So I called my mom, and now she's getting frustrated because she said there were a lot of people that she would have liked to invite, but she didn't because she knew we were keeping it to 150 so she kept it to immediate family on our side.
It irritates me that FI's family is inviting whomever they want to, and my family had to exclude a bunch of people. Don't get me wrong, this isn't FI's family's fault, they didn't know any better. If FI had the balls to communicate with them and say "Hey, look, sorry but we are keeping it at 150" then it would be a little more even, we wouldn't have gone over by 25 people, and my family wouldn't feel shafted.
Also, I feel like FI isn't appreciating all the work my mom has put into this wedding. She has done SO MUCH. He doesn't realize how much work it takes to make your own invitations, and how great it is that she has taken that load off of me.
He's been very involved in all the planning process, but I still don't feel like he's appreciating all the work it has taken and all the details and how it's not as easy as "we will just add a few more people, no big deal" Ok, well let me order some more favors, and have my mom make more programs, and tell the caterer to bring more food, and tell the venue we will have to pay more because our number went from 100-150, to 150-175. Easy enough!
Phew, I feel a little better now. Sorry that was long ladies. I needed to get that off my chest.
Am I being unreasonable here?