Should I buy parent gifts?

Panda8723

I was planning on buying my parents and my FILs gifts, but FI tells me that I'm crazy and that they're not necessary, it's only the harmful effects of "wedding porn" that give me this idea (haha).

I was sure that we should get all sets of parents gifts (3 sets, his parents have both remarried), but he was sure that we shouldn't so he called his brother, who was married a couple years ago, to ask. His brother didn't give any parent gifts.

I want to thank my parents and his parents for their financial gifts, the help they're giving us, and for raising us well and giving us excellent examples of loving relationships. However, I don't want to one-up my future brother and sister in law. What should I do?

 Note: I was planning on stealing a good wedding photo from each set of parents' albums and having it enlarged and framed or having a sketch made of it.

jennylove810

IMO, if your BIL didn't give parent gifts, that has nothing to do with you and your wedding.  I think your BIL was in poor taste to not do a gift of some sort and you shouldn't take him into account at all.  The way I see it, we give our WPs gifts to thank them for their time, help, and support, and parents deserve the same appreciation.  I want to find a really amazing gift for my parents because aside from their financial assistance, they've been wonderful and helpful, and I want to show them how thankful I am.

LEESHY09

You should give gifts if you want to. If they didn't, that was their choice. I think it is nice and the parents really appreciate it (but of course they don't expect anything!). We are getting nice picture frames that they can put the invitation and a wedding picture in it to 3 sets of parents (because it is all we could afford right now!). In the end, do what you want!

pandasquishy

When I mentioned to my Mom during planning that FI and I were going shopping for WP gifts and parent's gifts at the same time she was shocked.  She said she never heard of parent's gifts and wasn't expecting one.  I suspect DHs parents felt the same way.  It wasn't a tradition when they got married and they didn't know about it.

But we got them some really nice bottles of wine as a gift anyway and gave them to them at the RD with the WP gifts.