House Fund/Cash Registry

lorikoke

I just registered for Hatch My House - http://www.hatchmyhouse.com. It's a down payment or cash (toward home) registry. I was wondering if anyone used it and/or how they told their guests. Not sure how to get the word out, except for my wedding website, but also concern our guests might not 'get it'. Any thoughts?

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Are you registered anywhere else? Just FYI, you might get a variety of opinions - many people think cash, house or honeymoon registries are quite gauche.

And the other thing is, you don't worry about whether or not they get it. Many will prefer to get you an actual gift. Also, if they get you something you haven't registered for, who cares? The gift isn't the important part of your wedding.

Registries have been around for decades. Even before the internet! People know how to find them. Information is spread by word of mouth to those who ask, usually by parents and members of the wedding party. Nowadays, people can also plug your names into google and figure it out in about 10 seconds. I've NEVER heard of someone who wants to find out about a wedding registry not being able to do so.

It's a weird thing to be worried about, IMO.

MyNameIsNot

I urge you to reconsider this.  Registering for cash is really rude.

MyNameIsNot

It's really not a matter of opinion.  Flat out asking for money like that is rude.  If you read Emily Post, she (Peggy) says that the appropriate way to do it is to spread the word that you don't have a registry but are saving for a house.  You don't register for it.

A cash registry is incredibly rude.  It is your decision, but don't jump up and down when people point that out to you.  We're only mentioning it to try to prevent you from embarassing yourself in front of loved ones.

jennylove810

The only part of this I don't like is that I'd be giving money, either via an e-check or credit card, to an unfamiliar website.  Maybe it's perfectly safe, but I'm not down with throwing my personal information out into cyberspace like that.

I think a better plan would be to simply have the word discreetly spread that you're saving for a house, and then register for gifts.  It's normal and common for newlyweds to want their own home and plenty of your friends and family will be more than happy to help you reach your dream, just maybe not over a website.

I don't necessarily think a cash registry is rude, I'm just wary of the mechanics of it, and probably wouldn't use it, but would certainly bring a nice fat card to the wedding.

jinxed8605

If that was your only registry, I'd get you a card... maybe... I defeinitely wouldn't bring a gift.  Consider your other guests, those that don't want to give cash and those that find asking for cash rude/tacky.

jinxed8605

ETA: If guests want to give cash, they will. They don't need a website to do it. Plus, then you get the full amount... not what they gave minus the fees from the website!

MyNameIsNot

I just noticed that every single one of your posts is plugging this registry, and your bio says you've been married for 6 months.

Duh!  You work there!

jennylove810

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_house-fundcash-registry?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:f699b9a9-a5d4-467c-8af5-b49dbfab6e3aPost:3ca6a235-d616-409f-b0b0-859eb22473d8">Re: House Fund/Cash Registry</a>:
[QUOTE]I just noticed that every single one of your posts is plugging this registry, and your bio says you've been married for 6 months. Duh!  You work there!
Posted by MyNameIsNot[/QUOTE]

Whoaaa good catch!!

cukimerrydoll

I agree with Jinx8605.  If they intend to give you money, they will!  A lot of people do, and my parents (wedding veterans), say a couple usually receives about $10 per person invited.  Not that everyone gives $10, just that one in 10 guests will give you $100, or 2 will give you $50... you get the idea.

But also think about other things you might need for a house, that should give you a good starting point for a gift registry.  If you have an apartment or two apartments, think about what you might not have (I'm having a hard time with this, because I'm renting a house).  But even the basics can go in there:
A set of guest towels - 4 pieces of each: big towel, hand towel, washcloth
A new set of sheets - because nothing feels better!  And you can register for the good stuff too, the 800-thread count Egyptian cotton (which oddly enough I don't like, I prefer bamboo)
A lawn mower
A grill - gas, charcoal, whatever suits your fancy
Patio furniture
...

You might have to rent a storage locker, or use a section of your current place for storage, but that gives guests the opportunity to help buy the house (because a lot of people do give money), but also to help turn the house into a home.

mwhitson14

This board doesn't have a mod, but I've reported you to Knot Annie.

Nebb

This is one of the worst ideas ever. You dont register for a downpayment on  your house, you save up your own money for your downpayment. You dont ask for cash, you dont register for cash.

A lot of people will give cash regardless, you dont have to be rude and ask for it. If anything I think that will lessen your chances of getting money because it is offensive.

NcsuPsych

This post makes me sad. . . thats all. . .