Invitation Wording Dilemma

elizabethmae315

 So I am to the point of writing the verse for my invitations, and I dont know what to do about parent names. My parents are together and married, and FI's parents are divorced and remarried (within the last couple months.)

I know that etiquette says that you list those who are helping contribute funds on the invites, which is my parents and FI's father and stepmom, along with Fi and I as well. However, I feel like thats leaving FMIL and husband out. I suggested just writing "Together with their parents," but my dad is contributing a lot, and didnt really like that option. I dont think I want to list all 3 parent pairs either. 

The other thing is that both of the remarriages occurred recently- so the stepparents did not really contribute to raising FI, do they need to be included?

Is there an option Im not thinking of? Is there one you think sounds the best? 

pillsburyaj

I am in a similar situation so we are going with "Together with their families" (regardless of how many people are contributing, etc). It includes everyone and it also doesn't take up as much room as listing every couple separately. Are you able to get proofs of your invites with the different wordings? You might decide that you like one wording, aesthetically speaking, over the other. 

singing_lyn

I saw one option that said "Bride's parents request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter, Bride's name, to Groom's name, son of fiance's parents name listed separetly with their names and then the rest of the information. I don't know if that's to wordy for you though.

michelle11988

I like the wording that Lyn posted.  I would just list out FI's parent's without the new spouses if you can't do with our families.

LADY324

My parents are divorce but remarried I hate my step mom so I didn't want her listed we chose together with our parents to avoid any conflict

elizabethmae315

singing_lyn, I really like that idea! Thanks! Ill ask around to family members and see if thats alright with everyone, and if so, I will go with that.  

Question with that though: FMIL is not sure about taking new husbands last name. How early can I ask her to decide so I know what to write?

singing_lyn

When you go to have your invitations printed you really need to know so I would ask her to decide before then. If she's still not sure then legally her last name is still whatever she goes by but even if it's her ex.husband's name you still list them separately to show that they are not together. The standard to send your invitations out is 3 months before and normally you need to print them out probably a month before to get them delivered in time to address them. so she probably needs to decide in the next month to month and a half or just decide how she wants to be addressed at least on the onvitation.

Elinetrouwt

Either no names or all names, I'd say.

BmoreBride311

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[QUOTE]<strong>I am in a similar situation so we are going with "Together with their families" (regardless of how many people are contributing, etc). It includes everyone and it also doesn't take up as much room as listing every couple separately.</strong> Are you able to get proofs of your invites with the different wordings? You might decide that you like one wording, aesthetically speaking, over the other. 
Posted by pillsburyaj[/QUOTE]

This is what we're doing. I like how "families" rather than "parents" sounds, and it uncomplicates things.

dramaqueen91087

I am leaving off FI's step-father, mostly because they don't always get along. So it will read 

My parents

request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter

Me

to

FI

Son of FMIL

His father passed away though so we are not listing a father at all.