Confessions

serlace

Okay, so I've seen this topic on other boards - so yes, I stole the idea.  You pretty much just confess something.  It can be WR, NWR, whatever really - something major, something small, etc.  Here, I'll start.

My confession is that I really don't like my wedding dress.  I know I have probably said - oh, I love my dress - on this board before, but yeah, not true.  I think it is a very pretty dress, it's just not me.  But, I tried on seriously about 100 dresses and I hated them all.  And on top of that it is a gift from FMIL.  So, she flew in for the day to go shopping and pick out a dress.  I thought I had it narrowed down.  I only had one day to decide.  No, she didn't pressure me at all.  I have no idea what to do (no, it's not in the budget to buy a different one - besides, she would be crushed).  Anyhoo - that's my confession.  What's yours?

cfibelkorn

I haven't worked out in TWO weeks I am really embarrassed and ashamed but I just haven't felt like it lately....I need to get my butt into gear though since the wedding is about 4 and half months away!

Tiffany618

Serlace- Awwwww!  If it makes you feel any better, mine was pretty and all but it didn't give me any tears.  I basically bought it because it was comfortable and flattering and my Mom and MoH loved it.  I liked every dress I tried on, they really are all pretty... just some were flattering and others weren't.

I know this probably isn't possible... but since you haven't worn or altered it yet do you think Circle Park would exchange if you explain what happened?

My only confession is that I had Pizza Hut express for lunch.  I'm on a horrible eating spree these past few weeks.  I can't control it... I went out to get Subway and came back with Pizza. Argh.

bsn1752

I don't want the whole daddy/daughter moment at my wedding. It's just weird.  I think that it's so sweet when I see it at other people's weddings, but the idea of having that moment with my dad.... is weird.  We are NOT close.  At this point, I just want to walk myself down the aisle and nix the whole father/daughter dance.

Jay+Marissa

Even though we haven't been married even 3 weeks, I'm already having baby fever! But just a little bit.

Tiffany618

BSN- I didn't want it either.  I'm really close to my Dad but I just was so afraid of how awkward it would be.  We aren't a huggy lovey family really at all. I was dreading it the whole time.   Don't fear though, it really wasn't awkward at all.  It went by so fast I barely remember it.

serlace

Thanks Tiffany.  It does make me feel a little better.  Since Circle Park Bridal is 'off the rack' - all sales are final. 

lacy1603

Lacey: I feel your pain.  I bought two dresses and the dress I'm actually going to wear isn't even one of them....it was my best friend's reception dress.  I just thought I liked them when I bought them but after a little while I wound up not liking them as much as I thought I did.

My confession: I'm a little worried about how I am going to pay for the rest of this wedding.  I'm trying to keep it cool and collected but I'm freaking out inside!! 

cherrrylll

I loved my dress but I don't think it was the absolute best dress for me. I think I rushed picking it out and wanted to take advantage of a sale. Would your FMIL be crushed if you exchanged it because she picked it out? If it's just the fact that she paid for it, then if you exchange it, she's still paying for it and it's still a gift.

I confess that I drink straight out of my milk carton. That's about the most scandalous thing I have going on at the moment.

bsn1752

Bridgette - I'm sorry for your loss... I know what you mean.  My mother passed away when I was 11, and it doesn't really affect me normally since it was 15 years ago now.  But with this wedding planning, it's been making me weepy and sad alot when I think about her not being here.  When she was in the hospital right before she died, she said that all of her big dreams (sky diving, horseback riding in the Grand Canyon... her bucket list) weren't what she wanted anymore... all she wanted was to watch my sister and I get married one day... just typing this makes my eyes tear up.  Losing a close loved one is always difficult, but just remember they are smiling down on us and will be so happy to just watch from their seat! 

serlace

Cherylll - I don't think she would mind if I exchanged it, she honestly just wanted me to get the dress I wanted.  But, all sales are final, so I don't think I can exchange it.

Bridget,  I'm very sorry to hear about your brother.  This must be a very difficult event to have in his absence. 

... and you don't need a nose or chin job. 

bridgetlb

bsn1752  - thanks for that! i was getting tearing eyed too!

SoonToBeMrsHoz

serlace , i could pretty much copy your confession word for word.

my choice for a dress would have been something sleek and contemporary like everything else in my life, but i bought the dress my mom wanted ( and my FI too)

i went to every bridal salon at least twice, and tried on 100 dresses too and ended up getting what made them happy. 

my FI all but panicked when i showed him a contemporary dress one time, because he ( and my mom ) envisioned a cindrella ball gown for me... which def. is not my taste.

i hate it admitting this because my dress is a very nice dress, it's just not a "kathy" dress...

this dress below is what i would have gotten ... please excuse the hair and lack of makeup and envision it in my size..

shortgirltx

I didn't love my dress either...I claimed it was #2 because the store didn't have my #1, just to make myself feel better.  Plus everyone else seemed to love it so I went along with it.

My confession is that I don't buy MIL's latest "health crisis".  I haven't been very vocal about it just in case she isn't lying to get attention. The only thing I did was ask DH how he felt and said I'm sure she'll be fine.  Haven't asked about it since.  Oh and the crap she pulled at our wedding still gets me somedays.

I'm so not enjoying being back at work

BSN- there is nothing wrong with walking yourself down the aisle.  I'm not really close to my dad so he walked me a bit and I met DH and we walked the rest of the way down together.  We're going in this together, so we might as well start it off together.

bdettecrow

I am so happy to hear that I wasn't the only one that wasn't in love with my gown. It was beautiful, yes, but I also rushed into buying it.

My confession: I cannot stop thinking about babies. I desprately want one, whether it's mine or I adopt one. I'm getting pathetic about it too. I watch Bringing Home Baby on TLC in the mornings and in the afternoons, I watch A Baby Story. I know I'm just torturing myself, but babies...ah, they're so beautiful and joyful. Brad is 100% dead-set against having one right now. And he's right, because we're not in any way stable enough for one. But sometimes I don't understand how he doesn't just want one now. He's crazy to me!

Ok, after my long novel, I'll shut up

Mariah09202008

I confess that I get jealous every time I go over to my IL's house and see the picture of my BIL and his girlfriend up in their living room.  Why?  Because they've been dating a little over a year and a picture of Steve and I didn't go up until we'd gotten engaged.  And that was 2 years after we had started dating.  I haven't told anyone but a few of my friends about my feelings...and I definitely don't want to tell Steve because I'm sure he'll think I'm being silly...plus, I get my jealous tendancies from my mom and I don't want to be like her.

stephl3055

David and I got invited to a pool party thing for the 4th of July.  I hate pools.  I don't swim, I don't wear swimsuits, I don't look good in shorts, and I don't want to go because I'll be the only person there that is sitting on the sidelines not enjoying themselves.  His friends already think I'm a social outcast, and I know this isn't going to help. 

Also, this party is BYOB and I don't drink and I hate it when people ask my why I don't.  If I say that I don't drink and I choose not to elaborate, it's because it makes me uncomfortable and I don't want to answer the question. 

Mariah09202008

My birthday is on Tuesday.  This is the first time I'm actually going to work (instead of taking the day off) for my birthday and I'm curious to see if anyone at the office will wish me a happy birthday or do anything for me.  Besides my friend and co-worker Becca, I have a feeling no one will acknowledge it and while I know I shouldn't get my feelings hurt about it, I'll probably be a little depressed and probably a little pissed that I work for a bunch of a**holes that don't recognize the crap I put up with.

seujoanne

I had to stop watching Say Yes to the Dress (one of my favorite shows) because everytime I watched it, I got all panicky that I didn't buy the right dress.  I loved it and it made me cry... but what if I didn't try on enough?  I went to one store and tried on less than 10 dresses.  I'm really not that into trying on dresses (or dresses at all!) so running around to store after store didn't appeal to me.  I'm fine unless I watch that show or look at dresses online!!!

serlace

Soontobe - That's a very pretty dress.  I really like yours, too, though.  The one you posted in the PIP Dress thread.  It's very pretty.  Oh the dress dilemna!

Mariah09202008

Another one:  I read the comment that person made on the "photog/dj/videographer" or whatever post and almost responded to it but then I thought, "no, people will probably think I'm over-reacting and I'm probably reading into the comment too much" and then later on in the day I noticed a bunch of you guys responded to her comment.  It made me feel good to know that I wasn't the only one who got offended or pissed because this person made a HUGE generalization about the girls on this board.  And I'm glad she got called out for her comment...though I'm sure she'll never come back to try to explain herself.

cfibelkorn

Oh I have another......

It drives me crazy that FIL's still have pictures of my FI's ex!! How weird is that! We have been dating for FIVE years!! I was so shocked when I went up to my FI's moms work and saw a picture of him and his ex on her bookshelve....HELLO why do they not see that is rude and it makes me uncomfortable!! I think they are just BRAIN DEAD and don't realize it hurts my feelings

bobbileighb

Bsn- I say if you want to walk yourself down the aisle then do it as long as you dont think your dad would be hurt or just dont care but if you are close enough that feelings might be hurt then its tougher.  My mom is walking me down the aisle as I dont even talk to my dad right now I dont even know what state he is living in and he will not be invited.

I am shocked at how many ppl dont love their dress.  I am worried when I go shopping that my FMIL will have some influence my mom and MOH will be fine with whatever I want but FMIL is very conservative and in looking through stuff with her she is vocal.  I am not expecting to cry or anything when I find the dress but I do hope I love it.

My confession is that I am really annoyed with FI's parents.  FI didnt know it was taboo to mention money to them and even though my mom is paying for most of it he thought it would be nice if his parents contributed even some so he asked.  Now I know this whole conversation should not have even happened in the first place but they would rather save u for a pool then contribute.  REALLY now I dont really care if they just said we cant do it right now but to say no because of a pool just makes me feel like sh*t.

danac2010

My confession is that I don't want half my guest list at the wedding.  I invited all my family because it made my dad and step mom happy but to be honest if they didn't show up I'd be happy!  I can't stand my lying, manpuliative cousin or her loser husband but my dad said I couldn't invite the rest of the cousins and not her.  Well she stole about $15,000 from my grandmother and then on my grandmother death bed kept joking about how "Gran wouldn't want us to be sad she'd want us to take her credit card and go shopping".  Really she is dying all you care about it getting free stuff.  UM NO.  Also I don't want my step mom's sister there.  She is very judgmental and thinks I'm wrong for living with FI before marriage, um I'm sorry isn't you daughter pregnant and not 100% sure who the daddy is, yeah thanks mind your own business. 

Sorry I have actually been wanting to get that out in the open for a while so thank you for starting this post!

annielouise

BSN- Your confession actually made me cry.  And I never cry! 

1) Reading all these confessions about girls not loving their dresses makes me feel so much better, sorry!  I had myself pegged as the poor girl who doesn’t love her dress, guess it’s more common that I thought.   

2) I’m also hoping that a lot of people I invited don’t come to the wedding. I invited them because they are family, not because I want them there.  I know that’s horrible. (Fingers crossed)

bsn1752

Don't cry! I'm okay!  It just makes me that much more determined to have a wedding that my mother would have loved...

cfibelkorn

bsn - I can only imagine what you are going through...my mother and I are SOOOO close and see moved to NY about two years ago. I deal with it okay but now that Im planning a wedding it is so sad not having her here to go dress shopping or to menu tasting

Keep your head up b/c you are right your mother is looking down smiling and she will be so proud on your wedding day

NMac2010

I have really started to worry lately about FI's inability to tell anyone no. It bothers me, and I can't pretend that it doesn't. He knows he has this problem, we talk about it. Grow some balls, you can't please everyone!!!!!!!  If he knows we are busy one afternoon, and someone (family member, mainly) calls to invite us to do something, he can't just come right out and say "No, Natalie and I are doing ___ this afternoon, sorry but we can do it another time." He has to say "Yeah, we can probably do that,  I'll let you know"  And that just ticks me off because then I think "What the heck!? We had plans! HELLO! Why can't you just tell THEM THAT!" It's like he is so afraid to tell people no. I don't get it.

Wow, that felt good to get that out.

angieandjames

My confession is NWR... I am horrible at my job.  I've only been here five months today, and people keep telling me I'll get better at it and there's a learning curve and all that jazz, but it stresses me out totally (like, I get stomach aches, heartburn, and this choking feeling in my throat, and I'm fairly certain it's all related to my job and not my actual health)... and I am just not good at it.  Which is hard, because all my life I have tended to do things I am good at, and sort of avoid things I'm not... so to suck at something is a bit foreign to me.  I really want to quit and do something totally unrelated to what I do now and what I spent 5 years getting a degree in, but we've become dependant on my paycheck, and most of the other things I think about doing pay about 25% less than my current job... but I can't bring this up to FI because I make nearly twice what he does.
(Well, the money thing wasn't my original confession, but I guess that's been festering for a while, and it just came out while typing!)

NMac2010

Wow angie, that's a lot of work related stress. If you don't mind me asking, what do you do?

We are in almost the same situation right now. I want to make a career change BADLY. But what I want to change into, will cost us about a 25% income cut and with the wedding we can't afford that so I'm having to stick it out. It stinks, but we really need the stable income from both our jobs right now. I feel your pain...

Another confession: I haven't done much of anything work related AT work, in the last 2 days! I know, pretty bad!

llc2011

I just woke up from a mini nap.  Oops.