On Sunday I went dress shopping at David's Bridal with my sister, who is getting married six months after me, and her best friend Jessica. I didn't think it would be a problem to start asking some questions about my BM dresses, since I already purchased my dress there. I really like the idea of doing a solid black halter neckline with an ivory sash or ribbon. I didn't tell ANYONE this, but Jessica overheard me asking our consultant about sashes. Next thing I know, Jessica is wearing a solid black dress with an ivory sash, telling my sister how amazing a black and white color scheme would look for a fall wedding. I was slightly perturbed by this, but not too upset. My mom talked to me about it in the car on the way home, and I apologized for not putting my sister first, since we were there to shop for her, not me. My mom said not to apologize, because my sister was bitching about me the WHOLE time we were in the dress store. She doesn't want me in her wedding because she thinks I'm a terrible big sister, even though no one was happier for her and her FI than I was. She's telling anyone who will listen that the only reason FI and I are planning our wedding for March is because we're trying to steal her glory. She says I have a complex about my baby sister getting married before me, which is ridiculous, because she's been with her FI for four years and he could have proposed ANY time in that four years. She also is trying to tell everyone we're not really engaged because I still don't have a ring (we purchased it on layaway so as NOT to go into debt). It hurt me so much that I am so supportive and loving towards my sister, then the claws come out when it comes down to us sharing our special days together. I cannot imagine my wedding without my sister standing up there with me, but my nightmare is that somehow she will find a way to make my wedding about her because she doesn't want to share the spotlight. Unfortunately she's the kind of bridezilla who thinks it's a wedding year, not just a wedding day. We announced our engagements both at a barbecue at my parents house this past weekend, and she kept introducing my FI as my boyfriend, and reminding everyone that we've only been together two months so how can anyone take us seriously. (We've known each other for over a year, though we just started dating) She keeps suggesting that my parents give her more money because HER marriage is more likely to last, therefore be less of a waste of all that money. I made the mistake of posting on Facebook that my parents offered to help us purchase our first home. Even my sisters friends are telling me to back off and not steal her thunder. One of her BM's snarkily commented that I am the selfish money grubber, even though I made sure to point out that we would be getting a house INSTEAD of money for our wedding. I would rather let my sister have the big fancy wedding if that's really what she cares about, because I'd rather have my own home anyway. I would also rather keep our guest list under 100, so if people might have to decide between the two weddings, I'm telling people to choose hers. All I care about is marrying the man of my dreams, but it hurts SO much that my sister expects me to be shunted off to the side because her wedding is more "real" and "serious" than mine. I just don't know what to do. I've already got half my wedding planned, and my sister just barely started. I know it's not cool to revoke an invitation to be in the bridal party, but I know I won't be able to take her dress shopping for me, or out with my MOH to look at flowers, or even enjoy sitting at home with her and my mom addressing invitations over a glass of wine. I sincerely don't want every aspect of planning my wedding to turn into something about her wedding, and I'm terrified that that is exactly what will happen. I just don't know......