Etiquette for Bachelorette Weekend

Mariah09202008

what is your advice on financing the flight, hotel, etc for a bachelorette party weekend in Vegas?  Is the MOH and the girls attending supposed to pay for all things for the bride or is the bride responsible for some of the expenses?

bellagrace

I think it depends on the group and what available funds everyone has. I thought about doing this, but with scheduling it didn't work out. But, personally with a trip like that I would not let my friends pay my way.

Buttercup509

I think it depends on whose idea it was to go to Vegas. If the bride is insisting on having a weekend in Vegas, then she should help with the cost. If the MOH and BMs decided to take the bride to Vegas, then they should split the cost.

Tiffany618

I don't know about ettiquette but I would not let my BM's pay for me.  I might let them split the rooms (only if it was their idea to go) since they have to pay for them anyway, but I'd definitely pick up my own flight and food and stuff. 

balfour00

I'm planning this now.  3 of my BMs and 1 of my house party are my vegas girls.  We go usually 1-2 times a year, so when I got engaged they assumed that we'd all go to Vegas.  I'm planning on paying for my own flight and probably the room since they'll be handling the food/alcohol the entire time.  And since I'm having a local one here for all my girlfriends.  My Vegas one is more like a Bridal Party get away.

emimayor

From experience...

My only request was to have an out of town b-party, so I paid my own flight and hotel. There was about 15 girls, so I paid howevr much the hotel was split up amongst us. I did pay for food, but don't remember paying for many drinks.

Like pp said, it depends on the request of the bride. I think the bride, if given the options, should be able to determine what she is capable of doing financially. Otherwise, it should be a general consensus of those throwing the party.

I wouldn't trade in my out of town party for the world. It was one of the best weekends I've had with my friends.

Buttercup509

Maybe I should be a little more clear. I don't think the BMs should pay for everything (like food and activities), even if it was their idea. That would get very expensive very fast. I think a lot of it depends on the people involved and what they can afford.

BanannaP

When I was MOH, we paid for everything for the bride for her bachelorette party, including food, drinks, hotel, etc. But, it was only one night. I also agree it depends on whose idea it was. If the bride is the one who wants to travel, she should pay her way. If the BM/MOH are insisting on it, they should pay for a large portion of the trip. But nobody should have to pay more than they're comfortable with.

Mariah09202008

Thanks for the input  ladies!  I had a co-worker ask me about this and I told her I'd let her know what the general concensus was

AmberMarieTX

We are planning a four or five day cruise as my bachelorette party. It was kinda my idea because my closest friend and I really love cruises. I would never expect them to pay for anything. I'm sure they will buy me drinks here and there, but it is a vacation for all of us, too, not just me! It also helps that we are only a five hour drive to the port.