Fun way to ask bridesmaids?

mooselissa

Hi,

I think FI and I have finally figured out the wedding party and now I'm ready to ask my girls. Any suggestions for fun ways to ask them?

Thanks!

Mel

frogurt814

Take them out to lunch or dinner or drinks.  You should ask them all individually incase anyone doesn't think they can be a BM and needs to decline the offer.  They would probably feel really embarrassed having to do that in front of a whole group of people.

Or you can just call them on the phone. 

sprtychick10

3 of my 4 BM's live out of state and I plan on sending them a poem I found on-line with the instructions to call me as soon as they finish reading the poem. If they lived closer, I would definitely take them out for drinks or brunch and ask them that way.

trix1223

I say call them up and ask them if they're OOT, or take them out for coffee and ask if they're local.

As another Knottie wisely says:  Not everything about your wedding has to be a production.  The honor is in BEING asked, not in HOW you're asked.

Honestly, I'd rather get a personal phone call than a poem copied off the internet followed by instructions for ME to call the bride.  Sounds pretty backwards to me.

Will your friends feel any less honored if they are asked in a personal phone call than they will if they get a cookie shaped like a BM dress?  Will they remember any better being asked if they get a poem?  I don't think so.

And always, always, always, ask each one individually.  In case one of your friends has to decline for a reason that you didn't forsee, you're putting her/him in a terrible position by making them be the one who either brings down the excitement of the group, or who agrees to something they really can't commit to.

Call them up.  They'll be thrilled.  And the plus side is that you'll get to hear their immediate "SQUEE!!!" rather than getting a phone call after they get mail.

tldh

While I agree with Trix and am solidly in the just ask them camp, here's an idea that another knottie shared not long ago.  Dress up Barbie dolls in hideous dresses and promise that you won't make your BMs wear anything like this.

[Deleted User]

Just ask them. I don't believe in writing all those letters that TK talks about, etc. Just flat out ask them. Taking them out to lunch or coffee is perfectly fine, but it doesn't need to get any fancier than that.

trix1223

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_fun-way-ask-bridesmaids?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:016061e9-05c0-4297-a9f3-aa19e66670ecPost:10479c35-9664-4831-917a-3e5ce86e515c">Re: Fun way to ask bridesmaids?</a>:
[QUOTE]While I agree with Trix and am solidly in the just ask them camp, here's an idea that another knottie shared not long ago.  Dress up Barbie dolls in hideous dresses and promise that you won't make your BMs wear anything like this.
Posted by tldh[/QUOTE]

Ahhh, but tldh:  who's to say what makes a dress hideous.  We've all seen terrible dresses that a bride thought were gorgeous.  What if a BM got a Barbie in a "hideous" dress that she actually liked?  =)

My DIL had to wear an orange strapless dress with a big bow on one boob for a wedding.  The bride thought it spectacular.  It wasn't.  =(

tldh

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_fun-way-ask-bridesmaids?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:357Discussion:016061e9-05c0-4297-a9f3-aa19e66670ecPost:ca797558-f642-4b4a-a49d-1f6e567bc331">Re: Fun way to ask bridesmaids?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Fun way to ask bridesmaids? : Ahhh, but tldh:  who's to say what makes a dress hideous.  We've all seen terrible dresses that a bride thought were gorgeous.  What if a BM got a Barbie in a "hideous" dress that she actually liked?  =) My DIL had to wear an orange strapless dress with a big bow on one boob for a wedding.  The bride thought it spectacular.  It wasn't.  =(
Posted by trix1223[/QUOTE]

I didn't say it was a good idea.  I just happened to remember this one.

lalap69

I like the idea of taking them out for coffee or a drink.  I wish I had done this when I'd asked my WP.

trix1223

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_fun-way-ask-bridesmaids?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:016061e9-05c0-4297-a9f3-aa19e66670ecPost:cebfeb07-d6b6-4670-9253-a5b254768e30">Re: Fun way to ask bridesmaids?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Fun way to ask bridesmaids? : I didn't say it was a good idea.  I just happened to remember this one.
Posted by tldh[/QUOTE]

Excellent point my friend!  You didn't say it was a good idea.  You just made me laugh.  See, that's what I get for posting after a "challenging" day with my class of 4 year olds.  =) 

tldh

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_fun-way-ask-bridesmaids?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:357Discussion:016061e9-05c0-4297-a9f3-aa19e66670ecPost:dd78d209-bf58-4df7-8d58-b0b4a4da9430">Re: Fun way to ask bridesmaids?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Fun way to ask bridesmaids? : Excellent point my friend!  You didn't say it was a good idea.  You just made me laugh.  See, that's what I get for posting after a "challenging" day with my class of 4 year olds.  =) 
Posted by trix1223[/QUOTE]

I can top it.  Bar results were released about 27 minutes ago and I'm too chicken to check without DH by my side.  I really don't want to have to sit for this exam again but I just don't have a good feeling.

trix1223

And now you don't have to take the exam again, you proud member of the Pennsylvania bar! 

sytom

My MOH and I went shopping and I asked her a question about her thoughts on invitations and like I predicted, her answer was : It's pretty, but it's your wedding, you should do what makes you happy.  I answered : Well, your opinion is really important to me because I would like you to accept to be my MOH.  We were in the middle of the store crying our eyes out.  It was pretty funny since she wasn't expecting it at that moment.

lilcassers

3 out of my 6 gals are out of state and I don't see my friends all that often. I bought cute stationary with a verse on the front that says "Friends loveth at all times" and when they opened it up it said "Noel, you are so special to me, will you be my Maid of Honor" or bridesmaid, flowerfgirl, etc.

They all called/texted me right away so excited when they got the card! It's a cute keepsake for them to scrapbook or put in their photo albums.

shanghai'd

I asked my MOH at xmas time.   When i gave her her xmas present I also gave her a card that said "thank-you!" on the front.  On the inside I wrote "thanks so much!  You're the best!"  So predictably she says "your welcome but....why are you thanking me???"  And I said, "for saying yes, that you'll be my MOH!"  A little presumptive in retrospect, but I knew she would say yes and we both thought it was funny.  I flat out asked my other BMs. 

simplebride_24

When my FI asked me to marry him I called my sister about 15 minutes afterwards to tell her that we were engaged.  Her first question, Are you still going to school? Her second question, Do I get to be your Maid of Honor? So at that point she became my maid of honor.  All my other girls I took out for drinks and asked them one by one.  I wanted it to be personal and I wanted them to feel special.

lizhudson88

I bought small compacts at Claire's. One side had a mirror on it and on the other, I typed out and printed "Can you see yourself being a bridesmaid/my maid of honor? I can!!" on purple paper  (one of my colors) and glued it to the inside. I then stamped their initial on a tag and tied it onto the compact. They LOVED them!