Hair & Makeup

nm137

I am looking into getting my hair and makeup done professionally on my wedding day. My mom, sister, and one of my bridesmaids also wants to get their hair and makeup done. However, I am worried about the cost of everything for some of the girls and don't want to have to make them get it done. Also, one of my BM's has dreads and isn't very girly on top of it... Would it look wierd if only a few of the girls get their hair and makeup professionally done? Should I pick up the price of their hair and makeup? please help!

Hippinhipster

I'm having the same problem 3 of my girls and I want our hair and makeup professionally done and the others don't or can't afford it... and I can't afford to pay for all 8 of us! So I guess we're just going to have half of us done professionally and the other half not... there really isn't anythin else I can do about it... I don't think it'd be all the noticable but I don't really know for sure

aerinpegadrak

If you're leaving the professional hair and makeup optional, then you don't have to pay for it.  If you're telling everyone that they must use a pro, you need to cover the costs.

Stingray567

Do you have a girlfriend who is good at doing hair?  Maybe you could ask her to come over and help with the BMs hair as your wedding gift? 

Or, do you have a beauty school in your area?  They can do simple up-dos for pretty inexpensive. 

courtney1188

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[QUOTE]Stingray, anything related to the wedding isn't a gift to them.
Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]

She meant that a friend who is good with hair could do it as a wedding gift to her, the bride.


But like PPs have said, you definitely can't require them to have their hair professionaly done, especially if you can't afford to cover the cost. They know it's a formal event, I'm sure they can do a fine job of getting themselves ready.

aerinpegadrak

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Hair & Makeup : <strong> She meant that a friend who is good with hair could do it as a wedding gift to her, the bride</strong>. But like PPs have said, you definitely can't require them to have their hair professionaly done, especially if you can't afford to cover the cost. They know it's a formal event, I'm sure they can do a fine job of getting themselves ready.
Posted by courtney1188[/QUOTE]
Except asking someone to give a particular gift is just as inappropriate.  If someone offers, then great, but it's really, really rude to go up to someone and say, "Hey, would you mind doing hair for me and all my friends?  It can even be my wedding gift!"

mandi921vh

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[QUOTE]If you're leaving the professional hair and makeup optional, then you don't have to pay for it.  If you're telling everyone that they must use a pro, you need to cover the costs.
Posted by aerinpegadrak[/QUOTE]

<div>Agreed.</div>

twixinthemix

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Hair & Makeup : Except asking someone to give a particular gift is just as inappropriate.  If someone offers, then great, but it's really, really rude to go up to someone and say, "Hey, would you mind doing hair for me and all my friends?  It can even be my wedding gift!"
Posted by aerinpegadrak[/QUOTE]

<div>I have to kind of disagree.  If you have friends that have specific talents and enjoy doing them for others, I think it's ok to ask as long as you don't pressure them.  I have a friend who jumped at the chance when I asked her if she could help out with my BM's hair, and a friend who designed a hand drawn map for our invitation suite because she wouldn't be able to afford a gift besides that because of the price of the plane ticket.  Oh, and FI's coworker is playing the piano and organ for us, and we don't expect any extra gift from her.  That is her gift to us.  In fact we plan on giving her a gift for her services!</div>

kristinrotondo

Because I don't think anyone actually answered your original question: No, it won't look weird. Plenty of women have done this, and most people do well with getting themselves all dolled up anyway. Good luck!

aerinpegadrak

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Hair & Makeup : I have to kind of disagree.  If you have friends that have specific talents and enjoy doing them for others, I think it's ok to ask as long as you don't pressure them.  I have a friend who jumped at the chance when I asked her if she could help out with my BM's hair, and a friend who designed a hand drawn map for our invitation suite because she wouldn't be able to afford a gift besides that because of the price of the plane ticket.  Oh, and FI's coworker is playing the piano and organ for us, and we don't expect any extra gift from her.  That is her gift to us.  In fact we plan on giving her a gift for her services!
Posted by twixinthemix[/QUOTE]
It's fine to ask friends in the business for help (my photographer and videographer were both good friends), but in the same conversation, one must ask what they charge.  The rude part is presuming that they want to do it for free.

steph_mo

don't worry about it, i've heard of many weddings where some girls get hair/make up and some don't. i'm a bridesmaid in a wedding this summer and the bride said "if you want to get hair and/or makeup done we will make appointments at a certain salon. if you want to do it yourself that's fine too."
just give your girls the option, and don't worry if they want to do it themselves. i'm sure they will look beautiful.

love2nap

I only have 3 BMs, so this was a little easier for me! I sent out an e-mail asking my ladies if they would be interested in hair and make-up since I needed to know since some places require a minimum. I told them average price that I thought each would be and left it up to them. They were all on the same page, they wanted their hair done but not there make-up so they were all the same page-- I think one didnt want either but since she was last one to respond she went with it.

However, I've been to weddings where all but one had their hair and make-up done due to finanical reasons and you could only tell if you knew that her friend was doing it for her (like I did) and looked really hard at her. I think it would be fine to have some have it done professionally and some not. If your worried that it will look off, I would come up with some directon. You can say 'I would prefer if you all had your hair up" or whatnot. That way it might not stand out as much. I think you shouldn't have it to pay for some or all if you make it optional! Good luck!

starlight33

I'm a bridesmaid in a wedding this summer, and the bride has mentioned to us about getting our hair/makeup done.  Do you know if any makeup people would use my makeup if I brought my own?  I have a feeling they won't.  I am not good at doing makeup and know if I did it myself, it wouldn't stay on all day/night.  I have super sensitive skin and break out very easily, so I'm nervous about how I might react to different makeup.

aerinpegadrak

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[QUOTE]I only have 3 BMs, so this was a little easier for me! I sent out an e-mail asking my ladies if they would be interested in hair and make-up since I needed to know since some places require a minimum. I told them average price that I thought each would be and left it up to them. They were all on the same page, they wanted their hair done but not there make-up so they were all the same page-- I think one didnt want either but since she was last one to respond she went with it. However, I've been to weddings where all but one had their hair and make-up done due to finanical reasons and you could only tell if you knew that her friend was doing it for her (like I did) and looked really hard at her. I think it would be fine to have some have it done professionally and some not. If your worried that it will look off, I would come up with some directon.<strong> You can say 'I would prefer if you all had your hair up" or whatnot. </strong>That way it might not stand out as much. I think you shouldn't have it to pay for some or all if you make it optional! Good luck!
Posted by love2nap[/QUOTE]
Actually, this is inappropriate, regardless of who's paying for hair.  Not everyone can wear every hairstyle, and updos can be quite painful for some people.

CaseyandSalley

no, it wont look weird, you wouldnt want your freinds to be anyone but themselves right?

TheFutureMrsFreckles

I have to say... Asking your girlfriend to find some kind of updo she likes, out of billions of possibilities, is not a bridezilla move by any means! If you prefer her to wear her hair up, say so. There are comfortable, loose styles. Just had to say! It won't look weird at all. It just takes an extra second of planning. The bridesmaids who don't plan to get professional hair and makeup can get ready together at someone's home, with snacks and mimosas. They can play some tunes, and at least one woman is going to know how to wield a styling tool well enough to help! All women help each other get ready. You'll all look gorgeous!!

aschiessl

i agree with this comment if you want all of them to have it you need to pay check all local saloons they can offer packages when it comes to hair and makeup also sometimes if you talk to a person who does make up for a living ask them how much it could cost if they did it on the side.

jenn8088

Wow ladies, let's not be snippy! She was just asking a question. I agree with the grown ups who actually took the time to answer the question you asked. You could let them know where you will be having your hair and make up done and give them the option. If they want to do it themselves, totally fine, too. Good luck

angeltennis3

To actually answer your question:

I have 5 bridesmaids - 4 are getting their hair hair professionally done, 2 of those 4 are getting their makeup professionally done, and one is doing neither.  My biggest concern was she is the ONLY one that won't be with us at the salon. 

I'm not worried about her looking out of place.  Even when done professionally, some girls have more "style-able" hair than others.  The most important thing is for your bridesmaids to be comfortable with 1) the cost of the hair/makeup and 2) how it looks on them.

Sarahkayfa

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[QUOTE]Adults don't tell other adults how to wear their hair.
Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]
I Agree*

Sarahkayfa

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[QUOTE]I am looking into getting my hair and makeup done professionally on my wedding day. My mom, sister, and one of my bridesmaids also wants to get their hair and makeup done. However, I am worried about the cost of everything for some of the girls and don't want to have to make them get it done. Also, one of my BM's has dreads and isn't very girly on top of it... Would it look wierd if only a few of the girls get their hair and makeup professionally done? Should I pick up the price of their hair and makeup? please help!
Posted by nm137[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>It won't look weird. Your friends will all look lovely.

</div>

HYDROPHILE

I was in my cousin's wedding back in 2008.  I didn't have my makeup professionally done, and neither did three other bridesmaids.  The bride and the others all had theirs done. The bride loved her hair and makeup, the three bridesmaids hated it and ended up wiping most of it off (who does blue and green eyeshadow with a pink dress?!) The three bridesmaids said they looked like they were headed to a rock concert.

Once the other bridesmaids saw me do my makeup, I ended up doing theirs as well.

It looked fine. 

The rest of the bridesmaids and I didn't want to fork out all of that $$$$ for hair and makeup we could do ourselves.

[Deleted User]

I don't think it would look weird to have half and half (or any kind of partial group).

I'm not requiring hair and makeup but I've never been in a wedding where I wasn't expected to get my hair professionally done (and pay for it).  I've never been given the option of getting my makeup done.

We're all getting ready in a hotel suite.  I am having hair and makeup people come on site.  I'm going to send out an email to the girls letting them know the prices of everything ahead of time (my makeup person will do partial stuff- like only eyes, for cheaper).  I'm also giving them all a $25 "gift certificate" towards hair (aka I'm paying for $25 of their hair) since I have 7 girls and can't afford to cover them all but want to encourge them to get it done.  I'm going to put it in their cards with their BM gifts (this is on top of their BM gifts- I'm spending about $75 on each before this).  They are not in any way required to get it done though.  My hair girl said it was a good idea and she hadn't heard of doing it before.

I'm paying for the mom's to get their makeup done if they want it as well.

McNairBanks

If you make it optional and some have up-do's and other have their hair down or not "professionally" done, it will still be very pretty. This way you do not need to pick up the tab and they don't feel pressured.
Finding a beauty school in the area is also a great idea.  They can't charge full price but have great skill!
Ultimately, do what you think is best and what you'll be happy to look at in pictures later.

Hamptonshottie

My mom and I do hair and make up for weddings and I have never had a bride pay for any of her bridesmaids to get their hair andmake up done. Each girl should pay for her own hair and make up if she wants it done. If you feel comfortable with not everyone having it done professionally that is up to you and how you want everthing to look. If not everyone can afford a professional to do it, see if you can find a friend who will help them out to do their make up and hair for them if they are not comfortable with doing their own. Hope everything works out! Good Luck!

ekelly83

I had four bridesmaids, my cousin did my hair and offered her services to the others for a fee. My maid of honor chose to have my cousin, another bridesmaid had her cousin do her, and the other two did their own hair. They all did their own make-up and my cousin did mine. It worked out PERFECT! No, not one of us looked wierd!

bridewithoutadress50

If I where you if you have too pay all of you go to the mall the day before have each of you made up the makeup counter than buy the air make up and all of you can do each others make-up. and call one of the beauty schools like Kay,s and pay less for all hair do's of you speak to Kay perssonally she may give you a deeper discount for a large number.  God Bless And good luck.