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nillian10

i recently got asked to be maid of honor for my good friend's wedding.... i don't really know my actual duties. or when things have to be done. can anyone give tips to me?? also, pretty random, but does anyone know where they have maternity bridesmaid dresses...as it goes, i'll be 9 months pregnant at her wedding. lol. not sure how she feels about it!

LoveMuffins

Hello! It's ok to be new And (I'm guessing she knows?) i doubt the bride has any negative feelings about you being super pregnant at her wedding, since she asked you to be MOH anyway. Pretty much everywhere that has bridesmaid dresses has maternity options as far as I know. I'll bet even places that don't have the ever-wonderful "baby-doll" dress.

Now... you might end up hearing a lot about how the bridal party has no duties other than to buy her dress and stand up next to the bride. Technically true...

However, if you would like to, there are many things that you can do for the bride. Often the MOH throws or is involved with throwing the Bridal Shower as well as the Bachlorette Party.  Sometimes a family member will throw the shower, but even then the MOH is often involved - it really depends on how much participation you want to/feel able to give. The bridesmaids often help out (or sometimes throw)with that as well.

You and the other BMs can also help out with any DIY projects if you're inclined and the bride is doing them - things like addressing invitations, creating centerpieces, bouquets, etc. Often the MOH gives her opinion on the BM dresses, she is sometimes invited to dress shop for the wedding gown, and/or to various planning events (for the fun of it, not necessarily to help plan unless you want to).

You go to the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner, get pretty on the day of, tell the bride she looks pretty, and (as MOH) you hold onto the ring, adjust her train once she gets to the alter, hold her bouquet, and afterwards sign the license as a witness.

Now, you don't HAVE to do any of those things... but, imo, they're a lot of fun to do. And, of course, come on here with any questions you may have!

DanielleZZ

Well your required duties are to get a dress and stand next to her and support her on her wedding day.  It would be very nice of you to:
1) Plan a shower
- you can ask for help from other BM and sometimes family members offer to help(my aunts helped my MOH plan my shower)
- usually the shower is 2-3 months before the wedding but that is not set in stone
2) Plan a bachelorette party
- again other BM may want to help wit this
- this is usually very close to the wedding (all of the ones I have been to, including mine, were about 2 weeks before the wedding)

3) Offer to help her with any DIY project she has or other wedding planning

I am not sure about the maternity dresses but I don't think they will be to hard to find.

Good Luck!

[Deleted User]

Ditto pp's.

As far as the dresses go, you might be more comfortable either wearing something you already have or can buy that matches the rest of the WP. I am not sure which dress designers make maternity dresses, but a google search probably couldn't hurt.

filaw

Ditto, pp.  Another thing I think can be really helpful, if your an organized kind of person, day of, try to help keep track of anything she takes off (veil, sweater/shawl/coverup, shoes, etc.) and make sure it all ends up in a safe place and going home with someone at the end of the day.  As a bride, everything is whirling so quickly, it's easy to not notice and loose things.