I say "ummm" only because I was kind of shocked by this whole thing. So my FI and I have a large group of friends, most of them being other couples, and recently one of the couples got engaged. It's great for them and I have no intention of telling people who they should and shouldn't marry, but I really don't think they will last. I don't want to be mean and judgy or anything like that, but without getting into too much detail these are two people who have an extremely dramatic relationship with one of them being really controlling. I think it's great if they are happy but it's been hinted at that she will be asking me to be part of the wedding party (I think mostly because I'm part of the group since we are not very close at all). Is there a polite way to turn her down without hurting feelings or should I just accept if she asks? I really don't want to sound like a b---h, and I'm trying to be supportive by helping out with some of the wedding plans she's asked my advice on, but I just don't know that being a BM is the right thing for me to do.
