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Bachelorette Party...don't wanna go all out BECAUSE...

secretbride1988secretbride1988 member
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So here's the deal...I have a friend who is getting married.  I want to throw her a great bach party but I'm concerned as to if this wedding is actually going to happen!
The man she is engaged to is wonderful! He bends over backwards for her, and is just super kind!  BUT she keeps telling past bf's and bedbuddies that she is still in love with them and wishes she could have them instead.  And these guys have no interst in her or her ways.  They were flings you know?  So while I'm not concerned that the men will cause a problem I'm concerned she will just up and change her mind and continue to make bad choices (her finace is a good choice!). 
So do I go all out for this bach party? It would be a slap in the face if the wedding didn't even happen. I want it to be nice but not too nice! Idk I love my friend and am the queen of parties but.... you know
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  • AutumnFairAutumnFair member
    Eighth Anniversary 1000 Comments
    edited December 2011
    If I were you I would not worry about the Bachelorette Party until maybe a month out before your friend's wedding. Remember when you throw any party you want to plan first setting yourself a budget, etc to make sure you don't go overboard with spending more than you may have.
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  • trix1223trix1223 member
    5000 Comments 25 Love Its Combo Breaker
    edited December 2011
    When is the wedding?  A b-party can literally be planned 2 weeks before it happens.  And they generally happen in the last weeks before the wedding.

    sounds like your friend wants a wedding, not a marriage.
    "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146
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  • hlq2011hlq2011
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_bachelorette-partydont-wanna-out-because-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:0f5eb42b-289a-4105-b974-876bb08646b5Post:1398a3b9-d045-4661-94a7-68cc12675b3f">Re: Bachelorette Party...don't wanna go all out BECAUSE...</a>:
    [QUOTE]When is the wedding?  A b-party can literally be planned 2 weeks before it happens.  And they generally happen in the last weeks before the wedding. sounds like your friend wants a wedding, not a marriage.
    Posted by trix1223[/QUOTE]

    This.  All of it.

    Wait until as late as possible; you may save yourself some trouble.  Good luck!
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  • Kaley OrrKaley Orr member
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    edited December 2011
    I believe that what you should do is simply sit down with her and ask her if she is really in love with this guy. If she is, she needs to start acting like one. Then if so, you can start planning the bach. party and enjoy doing it for her. I think it will be a great way for her to get her feelings in check. But when you ask her, tell her you are only doing it from a best friend perspective. Tell her you aren't trying to hurt her feelings but you just need to know if this wedding is really something she wants to go through with or if she is really just wanting to be with someone else. I hope this helps! :)
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