My FI and I have been together for 4 years. His mom has loved me up until about a year ago when we started talking about getting a place together. She hardly talks to me anymore. She tried to baby my FI because I think she wants him to live there forever. He rolled over and we are still both living with our parents. For the past 9 months she has been paying for everything for his brother (including his car and she gives him money for cigarrettes) because he "can't find a job". FI said he didn't like his job and she flipped out on him and said if he quit she would sell his car and everything else because she can't afford his bills. WTF? When we got engaged she wanted to show me (and the ring) off to everyone else in the family. She asked FI in public how much he spent on the ring (dumby him, he told her) and she flipped out and told him he got ripped off and she that knows a guy... Since then she hasn't invited us to family parties. She tells me they are having a party but won't give me details like time and stuff. She will call him the day of and then be mad that he can't make it. For some reason he just wants his parents to approve. It seems like the harder he tries to make them happy the worse she gets. I want to encourage him somehow but I don't know how to get her off his back and let her know how much her babying his brother bothers him. She is always hounding my FI for money he owes her. I just want them to have a positive response to our exciting day. We are planning on moving away (he's joining the military) when we get married. I don't know if I should address this negativity with her or just let it go.Plus- My parents have been more then supportive. My mom is being very careful not to do anything without asking me first. They have even offered to let us stay with them until he gets stationed. Thank God for my parents.