I am making coasters for my mom(as part of a thank you gift for helping with the wedding and just being there in general) and can't decide if I should do pictures of her kids or some of her favorite things like color, flowers, etc. The hang up for me is that her oldest hardly ever initiates contact including not calling on mothers day, birthdays or even christmas and stuff like that. I haven't seen him in 2 years myself and am pretty bitter towards him for treating my mom like this(it's not a recent development either it's always been this way with him). He tends to only call when he's in trouble or needs something. With that said she of course still loves him but is hurt by his actions. I don't have a recent picture of him and there is no way I could get one. It took like a month just to get his address to send an invitation to. With that said, would you rather have a set of coasters with some semblance of all 4 kids even though his pic will be older, the 3 kids who still care(I'm not bitter
) or just some cute ones that reflect you as a person and not as a mom.Also if you choose the kids route would you rather it be just the kids or would you mind if like my FI were included or other spouses? I know there is always the "what if they break up" so while I think it's a great thought, I'm not sure if it's a good idea or not.