sent his RSVP back with his regrets. Petty childish spiteful can't-say-what. On here, anyway. First time I ever said something bad about him to her. But don't have to worry about THAT part of divorce psychology anymore! Naturally, my daughter still has a hope somewhere in her that he'll change his mind. I can't see it happening but can definitely understand. And we're looking at it as there's an awful lot of people who do love her and who will be there for her. They'll be 2 lonely people sitting at home. But, of course, still hurts and she still hopes. No matter what she's saying.Anyway, here's the question. Have to give final head counts in three weeks. Do I keep them in the head count just in case? I'd prefer to have security take them out if they do show up but of course I won't. I'll wait til she leaves the reception :-) I don't want an extra 2 ppl suddenly showing up, and causing a problem food- and drink-wise. What do you think?