I really need ya'll's opinion as a bride about the mothers. Here is whats happening. The MOB wants to save some money and cook fajita's for the reception herself. Where as this is a kind offer there are just a few problems with it. One the food does not match the idea for the reception I.E. formal. Two she wants to cook the food a week before the big day and reheat it for the reception. Three we worry about the liability cooking for 160 people. We have told her that we do not want this for our wedding and don't want the responsibilities to be on her the week of the wedding she should be relaxing with me the bride. So then we just had a conversation with the MOG about the rehearsal and she said as a last resort that she would BBQ for the rehearsal dinner. Meaning that the food is cooked that day and come off the grill to everyones plates. MOB thinks its unfair to her that the MOG can cook for the rehearsal dinner of 35 people and that we don't want the MOB to cook for the reception. The MOB is insisting that I inform the MOG that she is not allowed to cook and has to hire a caterer. She has said that she is very hurt and mad and that if the MOG cooks she will not attend the rehearsal dinner. What do you think? I NEED HELP!