Im going to try and make this long story as short as possible. My FMIL is much more helpful and pleasant to deal with. Although I do not want to hurt my mothers feelings we just dont like any of the same stuff and she is the type that if she picks out something she really like and I dont love it she gets her feelings hurt and will basically throw a pity party. i.e. We have neve both liked a single thing in my entire life. How can I make her feel included when its really my FMIL and grandmother who will be assisting me with the planning. I know most people have FMIL issues, but in this case its my own mother. Im trying to make this as pleasant as possible for everyone else but its stressing me out!!