Bachelorette Party...don't wanna go all out BECAUSE...

secretbride1988

So here's the deal...I have a friend who is getting married.  I want to throw her a great bach party but I'm concerned as to if this wedding is actually going to happen!
The man she is engaged to is wonderful! He bends over backwards for her, and is just super kind!  BUT she keeps telling past bf's and bedbuddies that she is still in love with them and wishes she could have them instead.  And these guys have no interst in her or her ways.  They were flings you know?  So while I'm not concerned that the men will cause a problem I'm concerned she will just up and change her mind and continue to make bad choices (her finace is a good choice!). 
So do I go all out for this bach party? It would be a slap in the face if the wedding didn't even happen. I want it to be nice but not too nice! Idk I love my friend and am the queen of parties but.... you know

jerseydevil

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[QUOTE]So here's the deal...I have a friend who is getting married.  I want to throw her a great bach party but I'm concerned as to if this wedding is actually going to happen! The man she is engaged to is wonderful! He bends over backwards for her, and is just super kind!  BUT she keeps telling past bf's and bedbuddies that she is still in love with them and wishes she could have them instead.  And these guys have no interst in her or her ways.  They were flings you know?  So while I'm not concerned that the men will cause a problem I'm concerned she will just up and change her mind and continue to make bad choices (her finace is a good choice!).  So do I go all out for this bach party? It would be a slap in the face if the wedding didn't even happen. I want it to be nice but not too nice! Idk I love my friend and am the queen of parties but.... you know
Posted by secretbride1988[/QUOTE]

Just throw her the party you can afford. If she cancels the wedding before the b-party you could always still go out together just to go out with your friends.

That's like saying you should scale one back because maybe, possibly, some day they could get divorced.