Shortest Vent Ever...

tlbattaglia

My mother has officially lost her mind.  Literally.  It is very disheartening/stressful/sad to deal with her.  I was hoping that wedding planning would bring us closer together...but it has essentially torn us further apart.  The end.

Thanks for listening

Kristin789

I'm sad for you.  But I'm sending best wishes to you for your future...

Muffin'sMom

Breathe...step back some...stay back for a while.  Sometimes all you need is time and a little distance and a solution will come.

DaughterOfHelaman2709

I feel your pain. 

For some reason, I thought wedding planning with my mom would be fun because we used to agree on everything, but now we can't agree on anything, and now every time we talk (about anything), there is a bit of iciness to her voice.  I could understand if I were marrying any one of the idiots I once dated, but since she loves my FI, I don't get where the animosity is coming from. 

From another who knows, I am truly sad for you.

Kate

tlbattaglia

It's tough to deal with.  She's been emailing and bringing up everything that I've ever done to disappoint her my whole life.  Keep in mind that SHE left my sister and dad and myself when I was 6 months old.  UGH...thanks for listening everyone.  And the advice. 

i2012do

Its ok. vent about it.
I know this pain, and dont worry we;re not alone

even my friend with the closest relationship with her mom- said that when she says LEFT her mom Says Right on everything wedding related....

I think that they envisioned this day for you in their minds for a long time, and now it is all coming together- probably not exactly as they imagined it.

if my mother sa ys "but i always pictured you as a country club bride in a sleek fitted gown " one more time!! (im getting married at a castle/tower like venue on the ocean and trying on rather large a line gowns)....

just breathe, step away,
and i find that assigning my mom "Tasks" to do.. like "making the guest list" or "researching bakeries"... has helped.

MrsSilverwolf

Ugh, I totally feel you on this!! My mom and I have never been close, and the last time I talked to her she started to cry and brought up everytime I hurt her growing up.... even though I didn't once bring up any of her faults! So, I have been giving her the silent treatment for 2 weeks now hoping a solution would pop up, but it hasn't.

And, we've never agreed on anything, so I don't know why I thought my wedding would be any different. She even had the nerve to try to tell me how grateful I should be to look down the aisle at her on my wedding day, since her mom died before she was married... but not to be rude, shouldn't I be looking at my future husband walking own the aisle?

Ugh, sorry, I guess I started ranting myself!! SOOO sorry you have to feel like this too!!

tlbattaglia

Sorry to hear about your moms as well.  It's a tough thing to deal with.  My situation has gotten much worse.  I'm opting for the "leave her alone and let her think about her words and actions" method now.