Pregnant Bridesmaid

TheRealAlysaurus

My sister has told me that she may be pregnant for my wedding. She is in the wedding party and I'm not sure what kind of accomodations I need to plan for!
I know that my bridesmaid dress selection will be greatly affected and I will need to pick something that either works as a maternity style or is the same color and fabric as potential maternity styles.

What other kinds of things do I need to keep in mind?

jagore08

Maybe think of letting all the girls choose different dresses in the same color, fabric, and length.  This way they can all choose whatever style suits them best.  And I think it's really nice wanting your sister to be as comfortable as possible.

gottahavashorti

Consider choosing a designer and letting them each choose a dress.  Some bridesmaid dresses have maternity dresses, I know Alfred Angelo does and I think David's Bridal might as well.  The styles are more limited in maternity dresses but the other bridesmaids would have  lot to choose from.

If your color is popular during the season your wedding is in, she may also be able to pick a dress up shortly before the wedding at a maternity store.  That way her dress still fits if she's not sure how big she will be or takes longer to get pregnant.

melissamc2

You're wedding's nearly a year away and she's said she "may" be pregnant - so I really wouldn't even worry about it for a while.  You've got MONTHS and months before you need to order bridesmaid dresses.  By that time you'll know whether she IS pregnant or not and then you can work with her on everything. 

Bridal salons have great suggestions for pregnant wedding party members and no, you don't "have" to have everything the same.  Everyone understands when a pregnant bridal party member has a slight different, but similar in style and/or color, dress. 

Just give it a little time.  There are lots of very easy solutions that should be agreeable to everyone!  Good luck!

lmary0504

depending on how pregnant shell be, have a chair for her to sit down at alter... mine will be 9months, so im doing all ican to make sure that babi doesnt come out!!

aerinpegadrak

Until she actually is pregnant, you really don't have anything to worry about.  Babies have their own schedule.

If she's large enough that she can't fit into a regular dress with a little extra room, she'll be large enough that no one will think twice about her wearing a different dress.  She can always wear a coordinating maternity dress off-the-rack if necessary.

You've got a couple of months until you need to get down to dress shopping nitty-gritty.  Deal with the issue then.

Karen's MOH

I had the same thing-- my sister was planning to TTC and let me know before we started looking at BM dresses. We ended up going with J Crew dresses-- the nice part being that you don't need to order so far out and can exchange sizes or styles if you are bigger or smaller than expected.

Also, check out designers that offer maternity styles so you have that option. You don't need to order them until about 4 months out, at which point she will pretty much know if she will be showing or not, but you will want to have the ideas in mind before have (like, she could pick out a maternity and a non-maternity style and make the choice then. Also remember if it is her first, she probably won't show as fast as if it's her second or third baby.

I hope that helps some-- it was tough working around the maybe/maybe not, and I know my sister didn't want to order a maternity style until she was sure she was pregnant, not wanting to jinx it or make it that much more upsetting if it didn't happen right away. In my sister's case, it happened sooner-- practically her first "try"! She will be 5 months at the wedding and I can't wait to meet my niece o nephew in Feb!

Also, PP has a good idea about making sure there are chairs available. Also, make sure she can wear comfy shoes.

TheRealAlysaurus

We found a dress that she absolutely loves now that also happens to be available as a maternity style, so she plans to order that as late as possible for a best guess without pushing it too close for proper ordering to take place.

Now I guess we'll just keep an eye out for comfy shoes and consider a chair (again, should need be. We still don't know.)

sylvias_03

I have the same problem. Which dress did you go with??