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Question Re: Wedding Invite

Mariah09202008Mariah09202008
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in Texas-Dallas and Ft. Worth
I got an invite to a friend's wedding in the mail this week.  Problem?  There's no RSVP card.  The only address I have is the one on the envelope.  Do I send an RSVP or do I just e-mail the girl?  It's so weird to me that she didn't include it.  My husband was like, "Maybe we're not really invited.  Maybe she just wanted us to know about the wedding" and I'm like, "No, then she just would have sent out an announcement after the wedding".  What should I do?  I'm leaning towards just e-mailing her my response....but even then there's not even wording on the invite that says "Please RSVP to..."  It's just "Reception to follow at..."  Weird.
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  • bridgetlbbridgetlb
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    edited December 2011
    then they probably don't need the rsvp otherwise they would have included it. depending on how they are doing the wedding food, it might not be necessary.
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  • SarahandAlex2010SarahandAlex2010 member
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    edited December 2011

    That is weird. Maybe she assumes your going to go and didn't need to send a RSVP card. Or it could just be informal. My friend did something similiar. She just sent out invites and no RSVP. She thought it was a waste of money.

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  • Hester930Hester930
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    edited December 2011
    I would call her and just ask.  My cousin is getting married next week, with a REALLY informal wedding, and they still included an RSVP contact number....
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  • Mariah09202008Mariah09202008
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    edited December 2011
    Yeah, I think to be on the safe side I'll e-mail her...I've never gotten a wedding invitation without some form of RSVP card or something.
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  • Jeff and DeepthiJeff and Deepthi
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    edited December 2011
    Your best bet is to call or email her. She may have forgotten the RSVP cards in some of the invites or she just planned it that way. You won't know until you ask and I don't think there is anything wrong with just asking.
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  • Mariah09202008Mariah09202008
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks for the advice, ladies! :)
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  • llc2011llc2011
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    edited December 2011
    I've also received a wedding invite in the past that didn't include an RSVP.  I thought it was weird.  I called the bride, and she informed that they didn't need to know a head count so that's why they didn't include it.

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  • shauna378shauna378 member
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    edited December 2011
    A lot of people do not do RSVP cards and they just anticipate 60-70% will show up, and my friends who have done that have been right each time.  I on the other hand, am a sucker for the RSVP card, and wll include one along with website info
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  • serlaceserlace
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    edited December 2011
    OMG - I am way too much of a control freak to not include an RSVP.  I want to know WHO will be there.  I would send her an email just as a courtesy.  Ditto PPs. 
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  • denisecarmonadenisecarmona member
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    edited December 2011
    Yeah I would e-mail her just to make sure.  I'm hispanic and we have huge weddings and we hardly ever do RSVP cards either.  Like someone above mentioned... we antisipate that about 70% will attend LOL, crazy I know.  A lot of my guest I know will just attend the dance and not the dinner. 
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  • Mariah09202008Mariah09202008
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_question-re-wedding-invite?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:e17e72a7-f8cf-47c5-839f-a208efa63969Post:12a4c87a-7160-48da-8332-c5e95d70f493">Re: Question Re: Wedding Invite</a>:
    [QUOTE]OMG - I am way too much of a control freak to not include an RSVP.  I want to know WHO will be there.  I would send her an email just as a courtesy.  Ditto PPs. 
    Posted by serlace[/QUOTE]I am the same way! :)  I wish I could have invited people and not have been concerned about guest count.  That would have been nice...lots of drama could have been avoided that way.  Unfortunately, the food cost a pretty penny and I think it was something like $50 per person over the 100 guest limit. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-undecided.gif" border="0" alt="Undecided" title="Undecided" />
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  • dspleftydsplefty member
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    edited December 2011
      She may be planning enough food and beverage for the number of guest invited. Some young ladies do not know they need to include a RSVP. I think I would at least contact her and Thank her for the invite, that way she knows you are coming.
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  • emimayoremimayor
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    edited December 2011

    Don't email her. Typically, weddings that don't include an RSVP card are very formal. Ettiquette states to hand write a letter back to her stating if you will be attending or not. A lot of southern/creole weddings are like this.

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  • Jay+MarissaJay+Marissa member
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    edited December 2011
    It's possible she may have forgetten to stick it in...I realized I forgot to stamp/address one of my response cards and felt horrible about it
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