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MOH Has To Bow Out

My MOH has to bow out of my wedding due to medical reasons. I totally understand.  The wedding is June 19th. We're having a small wedding with only 3 couples. Two of the couples are our children. The MOH & BM are our friends. My question is, do I replace her?

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    amdjellyamdjelly member
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    edited December 2011
    No.  This would make both your former MOH and the new MOH feel insulted.  It tells the first one that she's replaceable, and the second that she wasn't good enough to make the cut the first time.  Just have uneven sides.
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    xoxobxoxob member
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    edited December 2011
    Ugh. I feel like this needs to be my siggy.

    Never ever shake your baby....or replace a bridesmaid.

    NO. You cannot replace anyone in your BP.
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    KnibletKniblet member
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    edited December 2011
    Please don't replace her.
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    dannysgirl12dannysgirl12 member
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    edited December 2011

    I understand the whole not wanting to insult anyone. Believe me, I don't want to do that. But my dilemma is that I then won't have a MOH. The other 2 girls standing up are children. What am I supposed to do without a MOH?

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    pixiedust84pixiedust84 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_moh-bow-out?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:38a6e517-ea59-4b6a-931e-2d90e25cdd11Post:4b6f192e-bcee-494f-8f22-854f8bf00847">Re: MOH Has To Bow Out</a>:
    [QUOTE]I understand the whole not wanting to insult anyone. Believe me, I don't want to do that. But my dilemma is that I then won't have a MOH. The other 2 girls standing up are children. What am I supposed to do without a MOH?
    Posted by dannysgirl12[/QUOTE]

    You're supposed to get married to the love of your life!! It sucks that your MOH won't be there and it's sad for her but in no way does it affect your ability to get married! Don't replace her - it will cause hurt feelings all around.
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    lca315girllca315girl member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_moh-bow-out?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:357Discussion:38a6e517-ea59-4b6a-931e-2d90e25cdd11Post:4b6f192e-bcee-494f-8f22-854f8bf00847">Re: MOH Has To Bow Out</a>:
    [QUOTE]What am I supposed to do without a MOH?
    Posted by dannysgirl12[/QUOTE]

    Marry the love of your life. It'll suck that your MOH won't be up there, but I don't think a guest is going to think you're insane for having one of your younger attendants hold your bouquet or anything else that a MOH may do during a ceremony.
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    KnibletKniblet member
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    edited December 2011
    Honor her in the program.  Your marriage WILL happen, MOH or not.  She is not going to stop the wedding by not being there.
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    pokepoke27pokepoke27 member
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    edited December 2011
    Definitely honor her in the program. 
    You know your family and friends better than anyone on this website. If you know for an absolute fact that no one will get their feelings hurt by you replacing her, then go ahead. However, if you know that your friends/family members would be upset/insulted by this, then please just do yourself a favor and go without.

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    edited December 2011
    I would ask one of the children to hold your bouquet, and honor your MOH in the program. I would also ask a close friend to be the one to sign the marriage license for you, since your younger bridal party won't be able to.

    Then, I would just have uneven sides. There is nothing wrong with wanting a friend (adult) to help you get ready and everything, so if you have another close friend, just ask that person to get ready with you, and include her in things. No need to replace your missing MOH.
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    CA2MT4EveRCA2MT4EveR member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_moh-bow-out?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:38a6e517-ea59-4b6a-931e-2d90e25cdd11Post:b858319b-32b3-4067-ade9-b1548bffeff9">Re: MOH Has To Bow Out</a>:
    [QUOTE]Definitely honor her in the program.  You know your family and friends better than anyone on this website. <strong>If you know for an absolute fact that no one will get their feelings hurt by you replacing her, then go ahead</strong>. However, if you know that your friends/family members would be upset/insulted by this, then please just do yourself a favor and go without.
    Posted by pokepoke27[/QUOTE]

    I disagree.  Under no circumstance should anyone be replaced.  That feeling totally sucks, for all parties involved.

    If you are worried about not getting a bridal shower or a bachelorette party, well, not everyone gets those.  You never know, a friend may step in and take control over those parties.  This is what happens when people want children as their attendants.
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