Poll: Problems with FMIL.....
What are your thoughts on this?
My FMIL is driving me crazy! She is extremely nosy and opinionated. I value her opinions to a degree, but when her comments are directed at me personally (telling me what to do with my relationship) it is offencive and irritating. I feel these are matters that are between my fiance and I, not my fiance, myself and his mother. I want her to just mind her own business and I would like to tell her this. My fiance and I have been in a few arguments about her behaviour because of how uncomfortable she makes me feel (I want us to have a relationship with her but I feel it's time to cut the umbilical cord already!!). He knows how I feel, but doesn't see her actions as a big of a problem as I do. He says to "just ignore her" but I feel I can't do that because I don't want her thinking like she has the right to interfere in our relationship matters the way she often does. I realize that she's probably afraid of losing her son, however, I would never want that to happen. We both want a relationship with her but as far as I am concerned, her behaviour is becoming very offensive to me and I don't know how much longer I can deal with her interferring before I snap! I want to nip this in the bud sooner rather than later so that it doesn't escalate; I want to deal wth it, rather than ignore it...
Am I being unreasonable? Thoughts??? He suggested that I have a talk with her and tell her how I feel......however, I think this is his job, not mine.
Problems with FMIL should be dealt with directly to FMIL by bride to be.
Problems with FMIL should be dealt with by fiance; they should not be dealt with by the bride to be.