HELP!!!

jkitchin92473

ANy suggestions for me...who expects nothing from my BM's or my MOH...just to put thier pretty dress on and have fun the day of...yet they cant stop bickering about the Shower or Bachelorette Party even tho I said I didnt expect anything...they asked me what I wanted..told them and my MOH said she wont be going because she doesnt like what I want to do she would prefer a movie night since at that time she will have a 1 year old...i understand she doesnt want to leave her child alone and thats fine by me but NOW she is telling me all the bickering they are all doing and I just dont want to hear it. I dont know what to say or do ...I love them and thats why I chose them to be by me as I take my vows but I dont need the added stress. I want to stay out of it but do not know what to say....the MOH is very unapproachable and when you tell her how you feel...she says.."whatver I dont care" HELP!

Manwaithiel

Just tell them to not have any parties and be done with it.

heyimbren

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[QUOTE]ANy suggestions for me...who expects nothing from my BM's or my MOH...just to put thier pretty dress on and have fun the day of...yet they cant stop bickering about the Shower or Bachelorette Party even tho I said I didnt expect anything...they asked me what I wanted..told them and my MOH said she wont be going because she doesnt like what I want to do she would prefer a movie night since at that time she will have a 1 year old...i understand she doesnt want to leave her child alone and thats fine by me but NOW she is telling me all the bickering they are all doing and I just dont want to hear it. I dont know what to say or do ...I love them and thats why I chose them to be by me as I take my vows but I dont need the added stress. I want to stay out of it but do not know what to say....the MOH is very unapproachable and when you tell her how you feel...she says.."whatver I dont care" HELP!
Posted by jkitchin92473[/QUOTE]

If they want to fight, just let them fight and stay out of it. If anybody brings this up with you just tell them that you're not expecting anything, and you're staying out of it. Then change the subject and move on. Hopefully they do grow up enough to act like adults and quit bickering. But what they do in their spare time is their choice, as annoying as it is when they try to involve you.

trix1223

Either decline all parties, or resolve to stay out of it.  And if you're pressed by any of the women, simply tell them that these are their issues to resolve, and that you're not going to be involved in any discussion.  Then change the subject.  And do it as often as necessary.

lalap69

If it's causing you this much stress, I'd just decline the parties rather than deal with it.

ekilzer1

In my opinion- its a very lame excuse for her to use her 1-year old as a way out of everything.....

3 of my 4 bridesmaids are all Moms... My MOH has a 5 year old and a 7 month old, one BM has a 10 month old, and the other has 2 year old and a 3 month old. If anything, they all love a little time a way from being "Mom"- who doesn't want a night off every now and then?