Planned the wedding several months in advance (started July)...she was one of the 1st girls I talked to. She's a great friend; or so I thought... halfway into the planning she dropped off the face of the earth.
We are roughly the same size/shape so when I had to assume her size of dress cause I couldn't get a hold of her, I was fairly calm.
Then I picked out the shoes, I emailed, called and txted, with no luck. Weeks later, after several "are you still in the wedding" msgs, and "do you have your shoes" messages, she said don't worry "I got this". But I knew the shoe was going on sale, so I bought a shoe that fit me knowing if worse came to worse I would let her use mine (even though her foot is slightly bigger).
I FINALLY get her on the phone, after leaving several more messages, she tells me, to stop worrying, cause she is in fact still coming to the wedding, she took care of her shoes, and she cleared her weekend for the wedding and all its festivities.
2 days later (16 days out from the wedding) she emailed me.... saying she would not make it to any of the events except the wedding, that she had made plans...AND HAD KNOWN ABOUT THEM SINCE OCTOBER, but that it had slipped her mind! Rehearsal dinner stuff, as well as other events for that day had already been paid for. ITs now only a couple days away from my wedding, and she emails me again... SHE CAN"T FIND THE SHOES... SHE HAS NO SHOES.
SHE IS REALLY WEARING ME OUT. But I can't fire her....right? Can I choke her???
Do I take it personal, or not. (I"m trying not to) Do I act like nothing happened at the wedding and smile knowing she is stuck in shoes too small for her?
May I also mention that I have attempted to call this girl over 30 times since August... countless txt messages and she notifies me by email.
WHAT DO I DO!?!?! I'm trying my best to stay calm, collected, and not make a big deal out of it...but I'm at my wit's end.