My parents will be paying for most of our wedding and they have a very small budget. My fiance's parents are very traditional and have said that they would only pay for the things they are traditionally supposed to pay for. But they are going to be giving us a very large amount of money as a wedding gift which we can use as a down payment on a house. My fiance and I are also chipping in some of our own money on things. My mom is not very happy about this and thinks they should help pay for the wedding with that money. But my fiance's parents gave us the choice and we wanted to use it for a down payment instead of on the wedding. Anyways, I feel like my mom is trying to push us into having to use the money from my FIL. She keeps suggesting all sorts of things that we don't have money for in the budget or trying to add more people to the guest list. It's been driving me nuts and I don't know how to tell her no or to stop without her getting mad and taking her money away. We have had alot of control on things and I've given her her way on a couple guests she wanted to invite that I did not. But it's getting to the point now where if we did add more guests, we would be out of our budget. Any ideas on how to handle this situation???