How do I give my mom a special place in my wedding??

kreuzera

I am very close with my mom. She raised me as a single mother and we are like great friends. Several of my friends thought I would ask her to be my MOH, but I knew she wouldn't be down for that. I have already asked my grandfather to walk me down the isle (he was the father figure in my younger years) and I plan on dividing the father/daughter dance between my grandfather, my stepdad, and my biological father. How can I give my mom a huge spot in my day without having her walk me down the isle or replacing my father/daughter dance?

mjmartel

During our ceremony to represent our parents we are giving roses to our mothers and grandmothers while the officiant says great words about them.

Maybe include this for your mother? but then you may need to include your FMIL too so she is not left out.

mandi921vh

You could ask your mom to read a poem that is important to her.

I also like the flower idea for the mothers. 

ootmother2

You're very sweet to be thinking about this, you know.

I'm MOB, raised my daughter pretty much by myself other than financial support from my ExH.  They had a one night a week dinner but other than that, it was really just me.  We also turned out to be very close and travelled extensively together over the years.

I didn't want to be her MOH, felt that was for her young girlfriends and she accepted that and understood.

Being MOB is the most important position, other than the bride and groom and I was honored just by that.  M had another idea though.

She found a silver, double frame and put a picture of us on one side and had the other side engraved with a poem that meant a lot to both of us.  I keep it on my side table, one of my most prized possession.

Trust me, your mom will be in a very special place at your wedding. Sitting in the front row, watching you with pride as you start your new life with your husband.

kreuzera

These are all wonderful ideas. Thank you so much! OOT, I feel like you are a lot like my mom. I know she wouldn't think anything of it if I didn't do anything directly for her; being my Mom is wonderful enough in her mind. But I wouldn't feel right not honoring her in some way. I love the frame idea, and the toast idea.

danz9

Why not have both her and your grandfather walk you down the isle? I defiantly dont want my mom to miss out on that!!

kreuzera

I've been telling my grandfather for years I want him to walk me down the aisle. I wouldn't want to take any of the focus off of him for his "duty" so to speak lol

danz9

True, I imagine hes really looking forward to the special moment also

Maybe you could give a special speech and ask her to and present her with a nice gift

OR maybe a mother daughter dance, I dance with my girlfriends all the time! Why not!

TeresaB2011

Here is an idea I seen on another brides wedding video it made me cry.

Instead of or in addition to the bouquet toss (this works especially if your mom is single) have a special bouquet given to her and instead of throwing it to others it goes directly into her hands and you have a special dance for the two of you.

The whole crowd was crying it was so nice.  You could really tell that the bride just loved her mother so much. 

I am doing something similar only it will be given to my daughter.

kreuzera

Love this stuff. Thank you everyone! Really getting some inspiration.