I know this is going to sound horrible and I know what majority of your reactions will be but the truth is... I am a maid of honor in a wedding on saturday and I can't stand the bride.
Let me clarify, the bride is my older sister and I can give you a laundry list of crap she's pulled starting back when we were kids but it all comes down to we just don't like eachother. Part of m responsibility is to give a toat at the reception. How exaclt do you toast someone you literally cannot stand? My ideas so far have been to just recite a quick poem about love and wish them the best but the truth is I don't feel comfortable going on and on about how funny and smart the bride is and how lucky the groom is to have her, in all honestly I feel bad for the guy.
Just to put it out there, I know that with these emotions I really have no business standing up there on my sister's wedding day and trust me if I didn't have to I wouldn't but bottom line is my parents are footing the bill for both her wedding and mine and have given us no choice but to "play the part" for eachother respectivley. I agreed to it because as much as I don't like my sister I don't mind the groom, he has stepped in and fulfilled the role of father to my three year old nephew in a way that not many could and for that I will never have anything but respect for him. I do support their marriage and i think they are good for eachother, I just simply don't like my sister. Since I am truley supporttive of the marriage I don't feel uncomfortable standing up for the couple at the ceremony, I just wish I didn't have to since I don't like her.
At the same time though I have requested that she not stand up for me at my wedding when she doesn't support my future marriage and hates the groom and me. I just don't think someone like that has any place at a wedding let alone being a "key player."
So bottom line, do I pretend none of my emotions exist and play the part of warm and fuzzy loving sister knowing it's all bull for the speech, or, do I find a way to not say things I don't mean while still being supportive and respectful.