Who to pick!?

jdhouston

Ok, so I've got a while until my wedding (April 2012), but this is weighing heavy on my mind. I have no idea who to pick for my bridal party. My fiance is going w/ his 3 brothers for his groomsmen, but I don't necessarily want to pick their significant others as my bridesmaids. Well, let me take that back... I only want to pick 1 or two of them! But I don't think that's fair to single some out. Also I have sisters so I would not feel right including his sisters without including mine. I don't necessarily have enough close friends to be in my bridal party. What should I do!?

marissa_claire

Since you have sooo long, I would definitely wait.  I know that you're eager to get going, but I promise things will change between you and your friends OR you might make new friends that you'll want to incorporate.  I would wait until maybe a year or less before the wedding to ask them.  Re-evaluate this in six months. 

lalap69

Don't even think about asking anyone to be in your WP until April 2011 at the earliest.  Head over to the Wedding Party board for countless examples of brides who picked their WP too early and regretted it.

When you DO pick your WP, they should be the people who are closest to you.  You don't need to have even sides and you don't need to pick people just because they're dating the people your FI picks.

jdhouston

So true ladies, thank you!

trix1223

I have an idea that by Sept. or Oct. of  2011 you'll have a much clearer view of who you really want in your WP.  Wait until then, and see where relationships are.

If people ask you, just say "Oh, I'm just enjoying being engaged right now.  It's so long until our wedding that we're not choosing a WP for about a year."  GL

FutureDondada

Definitely definitely wait. Take it from someone who didn't!

I went with my Sister (MOH), My childhood bff/FSIL(thru marriage), Cousin, and FI 2 sister. I dont want either of his sisters in my wedding and my cousin bailed out after a childish disagreement in which she is unwilling to sit and talk to me about. Then I added my bff, who was playfully hinting that since my cousin bailed she wouldn't take offense to me adding her in.

My BP is a mess. I wish I could step back and try again, but I can't and now I have 2 girls who are helping me with every move, a MOH who can't b/c she lives elsewhere and 2 FSILs who could give a rats A and only said yes b/c I asked...b/c I was ready to get going with planning.

Just wait...

nicole1125

I agree with the other ladies you have plenty of time, sure you can think about it alittle but dont stress about it and deff DO NOT ask anyone yet wait till 9-12 months before to do that. ALOT can change before that, relationships can change alot in a year and half...... GL

JerseyML

How many sisters do you have?  Why not just have your sisters and have him have his brothers.  If its not even just fill either side with friends.  Done and done.  You don't have to have couples in the wedding if you don't want them.  My brother in law isn't in the wedding because my FI has a ton of friends he wants in there instead.

lovetruly06

  The girls are right wait to pick you WP untill its closer to your wedding. Also I wouldn't worry to much about making spouses or girlfriend a BM just because the guy is a GM. The girls you pick should be people who you feel close to. Im having 7 BM''s because my family is so big 5 sisters and 1 SIL. Only one girl is not "family" but we have been friends since we were 2 so she's like a sister to me and it was important to me for her to up there with me.

  The only thing I would say is if your having a head table, make room to put spouses and dates next to thoes in the wedding party. It would be rude to not let the couples sit next to eachother.