When I asked my sister to be my maid of honor back in July she seemed super excited about it. I was her maid of honor 6 years ago and we had always planned on her being mine. The problem started when I asked her to go dress shopping in September. I live in DC and she lives in NY and my schedule is so hectic that I knew I probably wouldn't be able to get up there in time to help her shop. So I sent her pictures of dresses and found the bridal shops in NY that carried them. She never went. I kept asking and asking and she still never went. I gave her the benefit of the doubt because she was busy but then the clock started ticking down and we were super limited on time.
Over Christmas she and I were home in Ohio visiting our mom and I made the executive decision to brave a winter storm and head to the Cleveland area to dress shop. She was snarky the entire time! She complained about how bad she looked in all the dresses but then would say "oh its your wedding, whatever you want" but then start whispering to her husband about the dress. I kept encouraging her and telling her how great she looked but nothing helped.
Finally in the middle of bridal shop (which was super busy) she announced that she had to lose 10 pounds because I told her she had to (which is a total lie!). I was so embarassed. Needless to say things were tense after that. She kept trying to pick fights with my mom and I and finally that evening I told her to knock if off and she exploded in anger (which I was lucky enough to not witness because she went off on my mom after I went to bed).
I flew out early the next day. My mom told me that after I left my sister went off on my mom and her and her husband left. She has since changed her cell phone number (whenever I call it it says its "not a working number") and unfriended my mom and I on facebook. I sent an e-mail to her several days ago but I haven't heard back. I'm assuming she's not planning on being in the wedding but I have no way of finding out.
I have no idea what to do because she was my only bridesmaid and since my wedding is in April it is getting too late to find a replace and also order a dress in time. I also am not super tight with many girls (I have lots of girlfriends but all of my best friends are guys).
Does anyone have any suggestions? I'm getting desperate not to mention being upset and super stresses.