BMs-their Locations and a little info

mizzicantwait

I have unofficially chosen my bridesmaids (I chose them..just haven't asked yet) but what worries me is their location.

my MOH (who obviously knows she is my MOH) lives in Puerto Rico (where I used to live) We see eachother at least twice a year. (Yes we are that close)

Bridesmaid #1: Lives locally but is always busy. We talk a lot on the phone, Facebook and see each other probably once a week on campus.

Bridesmaid #2: FI younger sister (she is 15?...i think) lives in New Jersey

Bridesmaid #3: Location does not bother me about this one. The only thing that worries me is the fact that her wedding is 3 months after mine and I don't want her to think anything bad or obligated. I understand she will be planning too so no hard feelings if she says no.

Bridesmaid #4: Lives in between towns.. This woman is all over the place as far as location. Our friendship though is impeccable.

Bridesmaid #5: PENDING..lol

Flowergirl #1: Goddaughter (we are both her godparents) lives in CT

Flowergirl #2: FI sister (lives in NJ)

Does anyone else have most of their BMs from out of town or just never seem to be in town even though they live a couple mins away?

deepcovejackie

What does BM #5 "pending" mean?

ekilzer1

Why does location matter???

orangecrush32

Location doesn't matter. Pick the people you are closest to and please don't add a fifth just for numbers sake.

Kniblet

I am curious, like PP, as to why it matters where they live?  Are you worried about them being able to travel to the wedding?  If they agree to be in the BP, they will do so KNOWING they have to be there that day.

My MOH, 2 JR BM's, and a GM live in Georgia.  The other BM and the Best Man live in Colorado.  Another GM lives in California.  The last GM lives here, in Minnesota.  They were all there for the big day.  They knew they needed to get here and they did.

jagore08

All BM but one lived OOT.  This caused no issues and I fail to see how it could.

graysquirrel

As long as they are able to get their dresses and be there for the wedding, their location shouldn't matter. Just make sure that the date is clear when you ask them and they should be able to tell you if they can make it. 

SSaltzman87

Location doesn't matter at all. As long as they show up for your actual wedding, that's all that matters. They really don't need to do much prior to the big day.

My sister who's my MOH lives in NY and I'm not having her do anything except get a dress and show up.

McKenna2012

If you're worried about location, I am guessing you are worried they can't "help" or attend much other than the actual wedding. If so, you should know they are not required to help with or attend anything. Other than that, I don't see any reason their location should matter.

aerinpegadrak

I had six attendants in five states.  No complications at all.

sister2groom

Not seeing why location should matter. My only questions are number 5 (you don't need even sides, and if you have no clue who to pick, don't force it) and number 1 (you didn't mention the strength of your relationship. Is this someone you think you'll be friends with after you graduate and you move off to your separate possibly even busier lives?)

courtney1188

I don't see why it would be an issue.

And please please please don't say that it's a problem because they need to be there to help you plan your wedding. That is you and your FI's job, not the bridesmaids.

perkins81

Just go with the people who you really want up there. If they're not able to really help out b/c of the distance, that's totally ok. You can always recruit some local friends to help you out (or moms too!). Every single one of my bridesmaids that I'm planning to pick are out of state. Actually, all but one live about 1500 miles away and are scattered! So, we'll definitely be coordinating by phone and email, but it will totally be worth having them by my side!