Moms and Maids

Worried about meeting of the moms...

While my BF and I are not engaged yet, we know that we will be getting married. He just hasn't proposed yet.

He's from Virgina, while I'm from SC. We've done the 'meet the parents' thing, and we've decided that our parents need to meet.

This could be a slight...difficulty.

You see, my parents are devout Southern Baptists, though a bit less unyielding than they were. J's parents, his mother mostly, is Wiccan. FFIL doesn't really care/believe in anything.

Anyone else have a similar problem? I don't think it will turn into a giant theological battle, but I would prefer everyone get along.

Yes, I understand that these are grown adults, and are responsible for their own actions. However, a ill-timed or misspoken remark could hurt someone.

Re: Worried about meeting of the moms...

  • edited December 2011
    They are going to be meeting eventually...you might as well get it over with now.  I'd make sure that each set of parents knows what the other's theological choices are, so they are not surprised.

    When my parents met my husbands, oh these many moons ago, we were also worried.  His folks were UBER conservative Republican and mine were UBER liberal Democrats.  They got along fine, and only saw each other one other time after the wedding.

    They might surprise you!
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  • edited December 2011
    I agree with PP in each of you having a discussion with your respective parents BEFORE the meeting occurs. Explain your bf's parents' views to your folks, so they are not "shocked" or taken by surprise by anything at the first meeting and have him do the same. It could actually turn out to be a very interesting discussion of each couple explaining their beliefs and giving more info on it if the other couple is open to that. Or if it would be uncomfortable, it may not even come up at all. I think having these discussions beforehand separately is the best way to go.


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  • zitiqueenzitiqueen member
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    edited December 2011
    Are your parents or his parents the type to start a heavy theological discussion with people they've just met?
  • shadowkat08shadowkat08 member
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    edited December 2011
    Both sets have been informed of the other's beliefs.

    I'm not worried about a heavy debate. It's more of just a difference of views and opinions clashing.

    But y'all may be right, and they may surprise me. Thanks!
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