I could really use an objective opinion here – I am so stressed out about this I am my friend’s MOH, which I was so honored and excited about. She is super drama free, EXCEPT (and I’m not sure why) for her shower. A brief history of our turmoil: 1) She was super specific about what she wanted for the shower. I priced it out and it was WAY more than the two of us BMs can afford. When I had to go back and tell her, she wasnt willing to compromise (aka, cut the guest list or let us host it elsewhere). The solution is her mother will be helping with the bill. 2) We agreed on a tentative shower date ~12 months in advance. The following month I got engaged and set a date…a week after her shower. I tried to see if we could move the date to give me some breathing room, but by then her FMIL booked non-refundable plane tickets to come up to the shower. (When we planned the shower, the grooms family was not going to be in attendance.) So add 10 more people to that guest list… and she nixed the change in shower date.3) Another close friend of mine just set her own wedding date….the same date as the shower. My best friend is getting married; I want to throw her an AMAZING send off. Even as a host I have no control over this shower, and it will mean missing my other friend’s wedding. The shower is still seven months away…if you were in my shoes would you risk facing bridezilla wrath and ask to change the date? Skip the shower? Or suck it up and do as she commands?