Flower Girl????

tomeaka28217

I had not planned on having a flower girl in  my wedding, but I have a 15 year old god daughter who wants to be in it.  She will have the role of a flower girl, but I didn't want to give her that title.  Is there another title I could give her?

ekutlus

I have two daughters, 12 and 10, and I'm not having a flower girl. I just think the flower girl role is for younger girls. My daughters are my junior bridesmaids, but at 15 I think I would have just asked them to be my BMs.

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[QUOTE]I had not planned on having a flower girl in  my wedding, but I have a 15 year old god daughter who wants to be in it.  She will have the role of a flower girl, but I didn't want to give her that title.  Is there another title I could give her?
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Why can't you make her a junior bridesmaid? A flower girl is not a requirement. They often can't throw petals anyway.

aerinpegadrak

What does she want to do?  I would have died of humiliation to be a flower girl at 15, but there are some girls who would be thrilled.

mana8503

I was 9 when I was in my sister's wedding, and was a Jr Bridesmaid.  I'm with Aerin, I wouldn't like the title flowerGIRL as a 15 yo young adult.

slbinpink

I'm having my 13 year old Future Niece be a Junior Bridesmaid... I think that's the way to go at that age...

em01092

I would say junior bridesmaid. She can still toss petals if you want her to, if your venue allows. Ask her what she would prefer, if you can't decide. Like PPs said, she might be embarrassed by the title of flower girl, since she is a teen and may prefer JBM. 

ShelbyLynn0519

I think Jr. Bridesmaid. 15 is too old to be a fower girl, I'm having my 13 year old cousin as a jr bridesmaid

mandi921vh

Ask her if she would rather be a BM, IMO I think she is too old to be a flower girl.

StephieBow

I would say Junior BM.

my oldest flower girl is 8 and to me that was sort of the age cut off - I debated if she was too old for it.  I was a full fledged BM at 18 and my cousin was 14 and Groomsman so, depends on how you want to handle it.

AmethystMSU

Definitely not a flower girl. Flower girls are typically anywhere from 1-8ish years old. I think once you hit double digits you're at least a junior bridesmaid.

But since she is 15, I think she can have the bridesmaid title. If she was your younger sister, you would give her the bridesmaid title, right? Obviously she won't be able to do anything drinking-related at a bachelorette party, but she could still attend parts of it that aren't alcohol-centric.

When you say she will have the role of flower girl, what do you mean? Is she going to be throwing petals on the ground? Personally, at 15, I would have died of mortification if I had to do that in someone's wedding.

Kate61487

definitely not flower girl.  Jr or regular bridesmaid.  15 could go either way to me.

heinz11msw

Junior Bridesmaid or Bridesmaid-- eihter or, there is no difference.

I am not even having my flower girl throw petals because I think it's so cheesy and played out. She will have a bouquet just like my bridesmaids.

JessicaE84

I agree with PPs. My five year old niece is my flower girl and she is very excited about it. My FSIL is twelve and she is a bridesmaid. I think fifteen is WAY too old to be a flower girl. If you don't want to have her as a BM, could you maybe have her do a reading or something?

john&julie

I noticed you said that she wants to be in your wedding, not you want her to be in your wedding.  I'm not trying to get into semantics, but I'm sure there are lots of people who want to be in your wedding....are they all in it?

That said, if you want her to be in your wedding, I agree that she's too old to be a flower girl, and since you don't want one this really doesn't make sense.  She could do a reading or be a candle lighter if you don't want to include her as a bridesmaid. 

kalizoomba

I personally dont like the title of "junior bridesmaid". I've got my 2 11-yr old cousins as bridesmaids. and I'm just calling them "bridesmaids" 

barbie92

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[QUOTE]Please do away with that "junior" business. It's pointless, since they are doing the same thing the ladies do...walk down the aisle, hold flowers, and smile. Kids don't like to be reminded that they are kids, and JUNIOR says: " 'ou were picked because 'ou is so cuuute." Making a fifteen-year-old a JUNIOR is an insult, since she's almost an adult.
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I agree with Retread here. Since she is 15 don't put the Jr. infront of bridesmaid. Just let her be a bridesmaid. She will love it<img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" />

oceana919

I would say make her a bridesmaid. Fifteen is one of those tough ages, where being labeled "junior" might hurt her feelings or make her feel younger than she is.

ps. I have a fifteen and thirteen year old bridesmaid (cousins). I've also made a point to involve them in as much as possible with the older girls...they've loved it.

mdevette13

I have a 5 year old niece i have given the title of flower girl.  I have an 11 yr old daughter who will be a bridesmaid and who is actually giving me a way.  I'd ask what your young one wants to do.

tiffanycdemeo

I agree with the other posts, make her a junior bridesmaid.  If there is no room in your bridal party you can make up a role for her.  There is no need to go by tradition, you can incorporate her into your wedding party indirectly even.  Like have her fluff your dress and walk in your procession down the aisle, or something like that.

MistyEyeBride

When you say that she'll have the role of a flower girl, do you mean that she'll throw petals?  Because, to me, 15 seems a little old to be doing a "baby" job like that, even if you come up with something else to call her.  You don't have to include your goddaughter, but if you do I would make her a bridesmaid - junior or regular depending on your preference - but IMO she's too old to be a flower girl!

HeatherParises

I think I agree with most other responders. 15 is kind of an awkward age and I think she would feel really special just being called a bridesmaid. It really doesnt make a big difference anyways. I dont have anyone lined up as a flower girl for my wedding because we simply dont have anyone in that age group that is in our family or close friends.

trix1223

BM.  And you can only call her a "Jr." bridesmaid if you're calling all of the other BMs "Senior" bridesmaids.

brjm2007

My fiance's niece is 10 I think and she won't be in my wedding. I think a Jr Bridesmaid is a silly idea, and I have someone else in mind for the FG (she will be 6 at the time of our wedding). Our son who will be going on 3 is going to be our RB. Another reason I don't want any JBM's is because I am doing a 'no kids' reception because of price (they get bored anyway). The only kids there will be our 2 kids and the FG.