Hi ladies,
I have kind of been stalking this board for a few days to see if anyone is experiencing anything similar to this.
My FI is divorced. He has an almost 9yr old son from his previous marriage. Because of his son, there is some interaction with his ex-wife. Which isn't the problem at all, we get along fine (as best as exes and wives can anyway).
Well, because of visitation rights and my future step-son being a part of our wedding, we had to notify my FI's ex of our date, and that we will be taking their son to HI for our DW. And that's how we found out that she is getting married less than 3 weeks later. Okay, no big deal. We were able to work out visitation so that we both keep our dates, and the little guy gets to be a part of both ceremonies, with some downtime inbetween. Perfect.....not quite.
My FMIL is aware that "the ex" is having a wedding shortly after we are and is set on every little detail "having a wow factor". All because she knows that her grandson will go tell his mom about the excitement. My FI told his mom that the "wow factor" is the fact that we are getting married in Maui (we live in TX). But that's not enough. I bought my dress a few days ago, and was adamant about sticking to the budget, the dress was $100 over my budget, so she paid $150 towards it. Which I am grateful for and thankful for, but I don't like her motives.
She keeps making comments about weddings she had attended before that "just didn't wow me"
We aren't the wow kind of people. We want something fun, beachy and intimate. She has offered to pay for close to half of the wedding (my parents aren't contributing), how do we keep her inline without offending her?
I have already told her that I appreciate her chipping in and I am trying to be mindful of the budget so that she doesn't over spend. ANd she just makes a face as if I spit at her.
Any suggestions???
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