Bridesmaid Jewelry

Haceto27

Hey all - I want to buy my BMs jewelry as part (not all because I know it's part of their uniform and all that) of their gifts. I kind wanted it to be a surprise because I know what I want them to wear but I'm starting to think, should I get their input? I want them to match because that's just the look I want for my wedding. This is part of the reason I want to buy it for them. Since I want it so badly, I don't feel right forcing them to pay for it. I guess what I'm asking is, if you bought jewelry for your BMs, did you get their input or was it a total surprise?

Thanks!!

jagore08

I was in one wedding where the bride purchased jewelry for us without our input and I never wore it again.  If you're going to spend money on something then you should make sure they will use it again or you're wasting your money.  The jewelry doesn't have to exactly match.  If you're going with a cohesive look then make sure it all goes together.  No one will notice that they're not all wearing the exact same necklace or earrings.

mandi921vh

Unless you are certain the girls will wear the jewelry get them something they will actually wear/use. 

pretzelgrrl

I got my bridesmaids necklaces from Lia Sophia to wear day of...I got 2 out of 4 bridesmaids inputs (other 2 out of state).  I know at least one of them will wear it again and the other is not a big jewelry person...it was nice necklaces that were pretty inexpensive so I bought them for day of mostly not really a gift.  My opinion, if you are buying nice jewely and are considering a gift...make sure they will like it get input about what they like...if it is just for day of/part of uniform and not expensive then make it a surprise.

frogurt814

It is not part of their gift if you are requiring them to wear it.  No one will care what jewelry your BMs are wearing. 

Viczaesar

I'm with frogurt.

Haceto27

I care what they're wearing which is why I want to buy it for them...and why I'm asking for advice.

Thanks for the input ladies!

McKenna2012

I wouldn't spend money on a detail no one will notice.  I understand you want it and you will notice, but it seems wasteful to me.  If you're set on it, then I say get their opinions b/c if they don't wear it aagain, you have truly wasted money that could have gone toward more important details.

sarah42nd

I wouldn't spend money on a detail no one will notice.  I understand you want it and you will notice, but it seems wasteful to me.  If you're set on it, then I say get their opinions b/c if they don't wear it aagain, you have truly wasted money that could have gone toward more important details.


I agree with this. Maybe get a cheap set for $15-$20  but remember not everyone likes the same style also some people might be allergic.

aerinpegadrak

It's such a tiny detail, it's really not worth putting the effort into.  I have no idea what jewelry my bridesmaids wore, and it doesn't even really show up in the pictures.

If you have any hope of them wearing it again, you should definitely get their input.  But in the grand scheme of things, I think you're going to feel silly for worrying about something so insignificant.

graysquirrel

I would only do it if A) it was part of some major themeing, or it has nothing to do with the gift and you realize that it might be a waste in the end. I made my BMs necklaces to wear, but my wedding has a Victorian theme and the necklaces cost me very little to make (ribbon & a cameo). If they pitch them afterword, I really don't care since they probably cost me $2 and have nothing to do with the BM presents. 

katybell247

I have to disagree with some of you. I happen to think the jewelry is very important and can really make or break the outfit. I happen to like the uniform look of all matching and bought all my girls jewelry as a gift to them so they wouldn't have to be burdened by the cost. I put it in a silver jewelry box from Things Remembered and am having their names engraved on it.

It makes a nice gift and is personal too.

eel1990

I plan on buying my BM's jewelry for there gift, and I plan for the to wear it the day of the wedding. I'm doing pearl earrings and bracelet. Classy and simple. Yes, it is a tiny detail but I am a very detail oriented person. I do not think it's silly or insignificant . There your girls and you know them best and what would fit their taste and  YOUR wedding the best.

heinz11msw

I bought my maids their jewelry. I have 10 maids and I have every other girl wearing 1 style and every other wearing another. The the MOH has her own style. It is some fancy stuff because I want them to be decked out. I don't expect the more "plain janes" to wear it again so I bought all of them other gifts to suit their tastes (jewelry in their style, hair accessories, stationarym, etc.) and got them all picture frames and had some engraved.

8daysaweek

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[QUOTE]I have to disagree with some of you. I happen to think the jewelry is very important and can really make or break the outfit. I happen to like the uniform look of all matching and bought all my girls jewelry as a gift to them so they wouldn't have to be burdened by the cost. I put it in a silver jewelry box from Things Remembered and am having their names engraved on it. <strong>It makes a nice gift and is personal too.</strong>
Posted by katybell247[/QUOTE]

Just out of curiosity, how is buying several women the exact same gift, with exception of the engraved name, personal?

If you are requiring someone to wear something for your wedding, it is not a gift. A gift is something you believe the other person will enjoy and would want. It is not what you want for them and you will enjoy.

Honestly OP you will be the only one who notices the jewelry. So if it's that important to you that it match, you should purchase it and not count it as part of their gift. Otherwise, I suppose you could ask them that if they wear jewelry to please wear gold or silver or something but I wouldn't do that.

Honestly, I just don't get the matching thing. I love both of my BMs but they are very different people with very different taste. They did pick extremely similar dresses but I can't imagine trying to find shoes, jewelry, hairstyles, etc. that would suit both of them.