Hey, This is my very first post... and possibly not the last, but i have something that has been eating away at me.
To give a background, I lived with my dad and step-mother, and her 3 children (all younger, the oldest one is 6 years younger than i am) for about 5 years (when i was 13-18 yrs old) We are pretty close and all get along. My birth mother and I are great friends, I only left her to live with my dad because i barely ever saw him. I am having troubles with deciding how to incorporate my step-mother, birth mother, and mother-in-law into the wedding.
ALSO, i do not want my two younger step-sisters (now 13 and 15), who look up to me, to feel left out by not being in the bridal party. I am not looking to have a huge wedding party, so after including my close friends (3) and FH's only sister (16yrs) (we are pretty close - and I feel bad that I feel obligated to include her because FH asked her bf to be one of the ushers (without talking to me first - they have only been dating a short while) so we can't really have him and not her :S) My only blood sister has just announced she is pregnant (yay to me being a new auntie!) and is due (roughly) the week before the wedding... So i think i will just leave it up to her to decide if she would like to be apart of the wedding party (only thing is she is 8 years older than me and we were never really that close - but she will always be my sister
FH has already picked his closest friends/relatives for his ushers (total: 5) and does not want to include my blood brother (they are friends, yes, but not that close - only talk at family functions) he thinks it maybe a little awkward, and if they were closer friends then he would have no problem. SOOooo.... I really need some help with this...
1) How to include Step-Mother, Birth Mother, and FMIL into wedding (fyi: obvious tension between step-mother and birth mother :S)
2) Do I include younger step-sisters in wedding party, or give them important but small roles for helping with the wedding? (i figured that the 15 yr old wouldn't be too excited, but would just do it to please me, but the 13 yr old would be delighted, yet shy)
:: July 10, 2010::