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un-even bridesmaids and groomsman

KelseyB28KelseyB28
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So i have an un-even amount of BM's compared to GM. I am going to be having 4 BM's and FI will be having 5 GM (he has three brothers and two close friends that he would like to be in the WP) I have four of my close friends as BMs and i would prefer to only have those girls that i am really close to. Do you think that it is weird to have more groomsman than bridesmaids? do you think i should ask someone else to be a bridesmaid just so that it can be even?
thanks for the advice!

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  • NatandIsaacNatandIsaac
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    edited December 2011
    Uneven bridal parties very common, and they are perfectly acceptable. Leave your WP as it is,  you will be happy to have just your closest friends and family standing with you.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_un-even-bridesmaids-groomsman?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:735d9176-6739-4b4b-acbe-97305450b40aPost:9c363b93-7de3-4956-8d87-9e3a30292c0b">Re: un-even bridesmaids and groomsman</a>:
    [QUOTE]Uneven bridal parties very common, and they perfectly acceptable. Leave your WP has it is,  you will be happy to have just closest friends and family standing with you.
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    <div>This is absolutely correct. Many people have uneven parties.</div>
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  • bablingbrookebablingbrooke member
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    We had more BM than GM and no one stormed out in protest.
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  • KelseyB28KelseyB28
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    edited December 2011
    "We had more BM than GM and no one stormed out in protest. "

    Haha good to know! ok well thank you guys! someone actually told me that i needed to get another bridesmaid because it would just be weird to have an uneven WP! so im glad to hear otherwise :)
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  • lalap69lalap69 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_un-even-bridesmaids-groomsman?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:735d9176-6739-4b4b-acbe-97305450b40aPost:d928d96d-f71f-4b97-8bb3-b9ed4daeacdb">Re: un-even bridesmaids and groomsman</a>:
    [QUOTE]"We had more BM than GM and no one stormed out in protest. " Haha good to know! ok well thank you guys! someone actually told me that i needed to get another bridesmaid because it would just be weird to have an uneven WP! so im glad to hear otherwise :)
    Posted by KelseyB28[/QUOTE]
    Nope, definitely not weird at all. :)
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_un-even-bridesmaids-groomsman?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:735d9176-6739-4b4b-acbe-97305450b40aPost:d928d96d-f71f-4b97-8bb3-b9ed4daeacdb">Re: un-even bridesmaids and groomsman</a>:
    [QUOTE]"We had more BM than GM and no one stormed out in protest. " Haha good to know! ok well thank you guys! <strong>someone actually told me that i needed to get another bridesmaid because it would just be weird to have an uneven WP</strong>! so im glad to hear otherwise :)
    Posted by KelseyB28[/QUOTE]
    Yeah don't listen to people like that.  Glad we could help :)
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  • trix1223trix1223 member
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    WPs are not at all about symmetry.  They are about having those you care most about stand with you on your wedding day.
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  • lilcasserslilcassers member
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    edited December 2011
    this is pretty typical. pick who you love and don't worry about numbers
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  • AlexElizabethCAlexElizabethC member
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    I agree. Wedding parties do not have to be even; however, if it bothers you that it is not even you could always add a bridesmaid or just a junior bridesmaid. :)

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  • pretzelgrrlpretzelgrrl member
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    edited December 2011
    My friend had uneven and it was fine...myself and another bridesmaid walked with 1 groomsmen in the recessional.  Also, the photographer will know what to do to make sure the picture look great no matter what...Besides you said it best "I have four of my close friends as BMs and i would prefer to only have those girls that i am really close to"...go with your heart.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_un-even-bridesmaids-groomsman?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:357Discussion:735d9176-6739-4b4b-acbe-97305450b40aPost:dd4ea650-14cc-459e-9af3-6ae7e3be1be4">Re: un-even bridesmaids and groomsman</a>:
    [QUOTE]We had more BM than GM and no one stormed out in protest.
    Posted by bablingbrooke[/QUOTE]

    I highly doubt anyone would notice. You've got better things to worry about.
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  • kayakrunhikekayakrunhike
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    edited December 2011
    We had a lot more GM than BM, mostly bc my FI has a group of friends he can't say no to, lol.  We ended up having my two brothers stand on my side, and it was fairly even.  It wasn't a big deal at all, and nobody said a word about it.  :)

    Oh, and if it is only a difference by one person, don't worry about it.  You're fine.
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  • twopeasinapod twopeasinapod member
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    edited December 2011
    An idea someone told me was to have the BM walk out with the groom as his support and then the rest can walk out in even numbers, either way it doesnt matter.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_un-even-bridesmaids-groomsman?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:735d9176-6739-4b4b-acbe-97305450b40aPost:184ace3f-1f28-4f20-87fd-f5d2d815a385">un-even bridesmaids and groomsman</a>:
    [QUOTE]So i have an un-even amount of BM's compared to GM. I am going to be having 4 BM's and FI will be having 5 GM (he has three brothers and two close friends that he would like to be in the WP) I have four of my close friends as BMs and i would prefer to only have those girls that i am really close to. Do you think that it is weird to have more groomsman than bridesmaids? do you think i should ask someone else to be a bridesmaid just so that it can be even? thanks for the advice!
    Posted by KelseyB28[/QUOTE]
    No, don't just ask someone for even sides.  No one will judge you (few will notice) and you won't notice or care.  You don't look at your wedding photos and count heads--you see your friends and family sharing the day with you.<div>
    </div><div>We had more BM than GM.  We had the BMs walk up solo and the GM were up with DH at the altar.  Everyone paired off on the way back, and the last GM scooped up two BM.  Same thing can work for you guys (just have one BM take two GM).</div>
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_un-even-bridesmaids-groomsman?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:735d9176-6739-4b4b-acbe-97305450b40aPost:256def87-3f7c-46cc-8b0a-7123ce839699">Re: un-even bridesmaids and groomsman</a>:
    [QUOTE]I agree. Wedding parties do not have to be even; however, if it bothers you that it is not even you could always add a bridesmaid or just a junior bridesmaid. :)
    Posted by AlexElizabethC[/QUOTE]

    This is terrible advice.  Did you even read her OP?  She said she specifically doesn't want to add a random person for the sake of numbers.  And she's exactly right.  There is just NO reason to think that symmetry is more important than being surrounded by dear friends and family.
    "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146
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  • lhagnerlhagner
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    edited December 2011
    I'm getting married in just under 2 weeks and we have an uneven wedding party.  We have 5 BMs, and 4 GMs.... I am having 2 maids of honor- my best friend before I met my fiance and my other best friend I met through my fiance.  And the "best man" is my fiance's sister because he moved around so much growing up that they're actually best friends... Your wedding party is about having those people important to you.  It's your day and those people who would criticize you for not being symmetrical don't understand the point of the wedding party... 
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