hair and makeup manners

harpabb

Do I have to provide someone to do the hair and makeup of my bridesmaids? We're having a very, very casual wedding, and I'm planning on doing my own hair and makeup. 

I have a short cut, so it's not like I can do a whole lot with it; I actually might let my hair stylist, who's also a friend, and invited to the wedding, do it. But, makeup, I'm doing that myself.

I'd like my bridesmaids to look like themselves. I don't necessarily want some fancy shmancy girls that I don't even recognize walking down the aisle.

I mentioned this to my FI and he said he thought it was considered a nice thing to do for my girls, to kind of pamper them. Money is an issue, too, so if I don't have to do it, I'd rather not.

jagore08

It's fine to not provide a hair or makeup person.  I would just let your BM know that you're not having either of them and are doing your own in case they want to have someone do their hair/makeup then they can find their own.

ElisabethJoanne

I agree with jagore

MrsKigerToBe

I would feel uncomfortable as a BM to get my hair and make up done if the brides not going to. I'd feel like she was saying I couldn't do it myself. If you are having your hair done its completely option whether you want to pay for something for your girls. 

bstent

In the three weddings I've been a part of, the brides have told me their own plans (i.e. who was doing their hair/makeup, if anyone, and how formal they were going to be), and then told me that I could either do my own or pay to have it done. I was completely fine with that and in each case I paid to have my hair and makeup done because I rarely do my own hair or makeup beyond bare minimum, and I wanted to be at least a BIT more dolled up than my everyday look. I think the only bad etiquette in terms of hair and makeup is for you to say, "you HAVE to do this hairstyle/have this makeup, get it done professionally, and you have to foot the bill." If you have strict guidelines, you should pay, if you're letting them choose and they choose to get their hair done professionally, it's fine for you not to pay.

graysquirrel

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[QUOTE]In the three weddings I've been a part of, the<strong> brides have told me their own plans (i.e. who was doing their hair/makeup, if anyone, and how formal they were going to be), and then told me that I could either do my own or pay to have it done</strong>. I was completely fine with that and in each case I paid to have my hair and makeup done because I rarely do my own hair or makeup beyond bare minimum, and I wanted to be at least a BIT more dolled up than my everyday look. I think the only bad etiquette in terms of hair and makeup is for you to say, "you HAVE to do this hairstyle/have this makeup, get it done professionally, and you have to foot the bill." If you have strict guidelines, you should pay, if you're letting them choose and they choose to get their hair done professionally, it's fine for you not to pay.
Posted by bstent[/QUOTE]

This is what I did and my girls were all happy with it. I chose to get my hair done and to do my own makeup. I told them salon info and appt times and even made an extra appt if anyone wanted it. None did and that was ok with me. Everyone looked great and we were all happy.

There is no rule that you have to "pamper" your girls by paying for beauty treatments. That is something propogated by the wedding industry. You are 100% ok to not pay for things that you are not requiring.

peanutty2

Agree with PPs.  I think it's nice to give them a heads up what you will be doing and let them choose if they'd like to get their hair/makeup done or do it themselves.  Some people are just not comfy doing their hair and makeup and will choose to get it done anyway.  But if you're not requiring it, you don't have to pay for it for them.

shopgrl3177

I told my BMs that the woman doing my hair will be at our venue, and they are welcome to use her if they choose.  Several of them are using her, because of the convenience of her being at our venue, but others are doing their own thing.

harpabb

Thanks everyone! That makes me feel so much better! I will just let the girls know my plans and let them choose what they'd like!