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Random Bridal Shower Question

So my first bridal shower is next Saturday, (yay!!) and I've purchased small gifts for the hosts. I've been to a few showers, but have never seen the bride give the host a gift.... When do I do this? Privately, afterward? After I open presents, but while all the guests are still watching? When I first arrive? What did y'all do?

I just don't want it to be awkward...

Obviously, I'll send other thank you notes after the shower so that I can comment specifically on how wonderful it was.
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Re: Random Bridal Shower Question

  • edited December 2011
    I think I gave mine out before everything started and there was down time.
  • juliebug1997juliebug1997 member
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  • fallbride1109fallbride1109 member
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    edited December 2011
    I gave mine out at the end, after I opened my gifts.
  • Jen6862Jen6862 member
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    edited December 2011
    You're supposed to give host gifts? Is this traditional. I hosted a bridal shower last year and didn't get anything, but I got BM gifts later. Info please.
  • edited December 2011
    I gave them their gifts after the shower, so they could take them home to open them. 

    Jen, yes, you should get your hostess (hostesses) a gift for throwing your shower.  It doesn't have to be anything major.  I got my hostesses each a bottle of wine.  Not all my hostesses were also BMs.  Two were, two were not.
  • fallbride1109fallbride1109 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_random-bridal-shower-question?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:e49ceec3-65ff-4fa4-aca2-3e4c88a17f68Post:1f5a8ef1-41dc-4d7b-a067-1ac0aa001336">Re: Random Bridal Shower Question</a>:
    [QUOTE]You're supposed to give host gifts? Is this traditional. I hosted a bridal shower last year and didn't get anything, but I got BM gifts later. Info please.
    Posted by Jen6862[/QUOTE]

    Yes, it is traditional that you get your hostesses gifts.  For instance, none of my hostesses were in my bridal party -- I would have had no way to give them a gift later.  Plus, the gift you give your BMs for being in the wedding should be in addition to a hostess gift.
  • edited December 2011
    No one has offered to throw me a shower yet, but anytime I get invited to a party I always bring the host a little gift. I usually give it right when I arrive, because then you'd be carrying the gift around all night! I would probably bring a bottle of wine and flowers or fresh coffee beans for my grandparents. I don't think it needs to be expensive, just thoughtful. 
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  • edited December 2011
    Ok, cool. I think I'd rather give them before or after more privately... My FMIL is  miffed that her MIL and SIL didn't include her in the shower planning. Me giving them gifts in front of her might annoy her even more. Thanks!!

    Jen, I think it's just a nice thing to do. I'm giving them pretty stationary sets. I hosted a shower a few years back and didn't get a gift either. I'm sure a well written thank you note is fine. :)
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  • edited December 2011
    I gave mine out before the shower.
  • Jen6862Jen6862 member
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    edited December 2011
    Good thing I looked at this post... will have to do a little extra shopping!
  • edited December 2011
    My aunt is wanting to throw me one. I'm going to give her flowers and prob a nice gift card to somewhere in a thank you note.
  • edited December 2011
    All of the ones I have hosted generally give the gift before or after as folks are heading out.  Each one took a couple of minutes with me to thank/chat with me
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