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Zippy88k

Under no condition should you ask for money. If your FI wants to and has enough courage, he can, but it is 100% his deal. If you search the knot website, you'll see a page or two on who traditionally pays what, but I'm not sure what that will help unless your FI demands money from his parents and points to the list and says, "You must pay for these things." Which I don't recommend.

Did his parents pay for all of his sister's wedding? Or did his sister's in-laws pay some, as well? If they paid for all of his sister's wedding, they may expect not to have to pay, since traditionally, the bride's family does pay for almost everything.

Additionally, you may consider chipping in your own money, since it is your wedding. 

melissamc2

I haven't known anyone who truly believes in the "standard things" anyone is "responsible for." 

Of course, I'm a firm believer in couples paying for their own weddings.

No, there is no good way to ask for a handout.

AutumnFair

Sounds like someone ran away. But I bet by the responses I know what question was asked.

OP, this is 2010 you and your FI are the ONLY ones responsible for paying for YOUR wedding. Unless his parents offer money you do not ask. It's great if any parent, grandparents, etc offer but they are not required. Basically if no one offers you better sit down with your FI and discuss how many people you want there, how much you want to spend on the wedding, and how long its going to take to save up. Then you move forward either waiting for 2+ years, having a smaller guest list, etc.

lalap69

Deleting your post because you don't like the answers you got is really babyish.