Pregnant BM

[Deleted User]

Hello to all happy moms, maids, and brides!

I was recently asked to be a bridesmaid and happily accepted- my friend (the bride) is very nice, very laid-back...However, I know that the planning process can get stressful so I need some advice.
Her date is July 30th, and I just found out that I am a month pregnant, so I will be about 8 months large at her wedding.  Since it's still early (we haven't told anyone yet), when should I mention it to her?  I don't think it will be a problem, but I want to touch base with her to make sure (on the off chance I get put on bedrest or cannot attend, I don't want to leave her stranded at the last minute).
There isn't really a hypothetical way I can ask her without letting the cat out of the bag!
TIA

bablingbrooke

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[QUOTE]Hello to all happy moms, maids, and brides! I was recently asked to be a bridesmaid and happily accepted- my friend (the bride) is very nice, very laid-back...However, I know that the planning process can get stressful so I need some advice. Her date is July 30th, and I just found out that I am a month pregnant, so I will be about 8 months large at her wedding.  Since it's still early (we haven't told anyone yet), when should I mention it to her?  I don't think it will be a problem, but I want to touch base with her to make sure (on the off chance I get put on bedrest or cannot attend, I don't want to leave her stranded at the last minute). There isn't really a hypothetical way I can ask her without letting the cat out of the bag! TIA
Posted by greengirl09[/QUOTE]
Congrats on your pregnancy!  I would tell her when you'd tell her if there were no wedding involved.  If you would have called her the moment you go the positive, call her then.  If you would have waited until after the first trimester, tell her then.  If her reaction is anything other than, "Congrats!" that says a lot about her character.  She wont' be "stranded at the last minute," she'd be one BM down, same as she would be if some other medical emergency happened to a member of the WP.  The wedding will survive.

orangecrush32

Tell her when you feel comfortable telling people.

LoveMuffins

Congratulations!!!

I would tell her when you tell your other close friends/family. You don't seem to think that she's the kind of person who's going to be upset that a pregnant BM will ruin her "vision", so chances are she'll understand that you waited the usual amount of time before announcing.

daniellemcevey

How exciting for you!!
I would tell her after you've told your family and friends. They make maternity dresses for bridesmaids that can still match the other maids so it shouldn't be any trouble.

ichellemay1

Congrats!

I agree with pp - tell her when you feel comfortable telling her.

graysquirrel

Tell her when you are comfortable doing so, but make sure that you do it before you all go dress shopping. It will help the bride make sure that everyone can get items that coordinate. 

[Deleted User]

Thanks everyone.  I had a bridezilla blowout a few months ago and it's just made me parranoid that all brides have an inner diva just waiting to burst forth!  I will definitely let her know before dress shopping, which should give me enough time to get through the first trimester before sharing the news.