Tough Bridesmaid Situation

crzypssycat13 · March 2011

Sooooo, where do I start? I asked a "friend" of mine to be my bridesmaid. We are sort of new friends but for the past few years I thought things had been fine between us. After I asked her to be part of the big day she has started acting like a total bit*h. Pardon my French....She has been really negative when we hang out with all of our friends and she seems to think it's perfectly acceptable to call me dumb in front of everyone, which has been really hurtful. I hadn't said anything but tonight when she did it again, I finally broke down. I just sent her an e-mail, not a nasty one, but clearly stating how I feel. But it's the strangest thing, sometimes she'll be super nice, and do nice things for me, while other times she acts like she hates me.

I think I made the right move with the e-mail but Im starting to regret making her a bridesmaid. She's just not the "friend" I thought she was. If she keeps this up would it be completely innapropriate to cut her from the bridesmaid group?

zitiqueen · March 2011

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[QUOTE]Sooooo, where do I start? I asked a "friend" of mine to be my bridesmaid. We are sort of new friends but for the past few years I thought things had been fine between us. After I asked her to be part of the big day she has started acting like a total bit*h. Pardon my French....She has been really negative when we hang out with all of our friends and she seems to think it's perfectly acceptable to call me dumb in front of everyone, which has been really hurtful. I hadn't said anything but tonight when she did it again, I finally broke down. I just sent her an e-mail, not a nasty one, but clearly stating how I feel. But it's the strangest thing, sometimes she'll be super nice, and do nice things for me, while other times she acts like she hates me. I think I made the right move with the e-mail but Im starting to regret making her a bridesmaid. She's just not the "friend" I thought she was. If she keeps this up would it be completely innapropriate to cut her from the bridesmaid group?
Posted by crzypssycat13[/QUOTE]

If you want to end the friendship for good, go ahead.

sister2groom · March 2011

Ditto pp. But next time talk to her in person, trying to resolve things over email rarely ends well.

jagore08 · March 2011

I agree with sister2groom. Talk with her in person. Emails can be taken out of context when the recipient can't hear the tone you are using. And yes, you can "cut her form the bridesmaid group" but be aware she may not want to talk to you again.