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Ok So here is a little background...my future m.i.l is the mother of four boys and my fiance is the first to marry. This is where I need help...my bridesmaids are wearing navy dresses for the wedding and  last night my future mil was talking me about how she is probably going to have a dress made for the wedding and that she was thinking that she would have them use a navyish silver material.  My concern is that she is going to look like a bridesmaid and not a mother of the groom. I just need advice on this...is it ok that she is wearing a similar color? if it is not how the heck do I handle it without hurting feelings!?
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  • aerinpegadrakaerinpegadrak member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_future-mother-law?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:88aa344b-3f09-48f4-8c2f-96e477069c11Post:132d541f-68f6-4442-9a2c-8d6ced2b3620">future mother in law</a>:
    [QUOTE]Ok So here is a little background...my future m.i.l is the mother of four boys and my fiance is the first to marry. This is where I need help...my bridesmaids are wearing navy dresses for the wedding and  last night my future mil was talking me about how she is probably going to have a dress made for the wedding and that she was thinking that she would have them use a navyish silver material.  My concern is that she is going to look like a bridesmaid and not a mother of the groom. I just need advice on this..<strong>.is it ok that she is wearing a similar color? if it is not how the heck do I handle it without hurting feelings!?</strong>
    Posted by danceraa02[/QUOTE]
    You smile and tell her how beautiful she's going to look.  Not a soul will mistake her for a bridesmaid.
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  • AutumnFairAutumnFair member
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    edited December 2011
    Trust me, no one will mistake her for a BM. First, she will be pretty much seated throughout the ceremony so I doubt anyone will really notice that her dress is the same color as the BMs. Second, unless you are taking a huge group shot with all the WP and both sets of parents there will be no pictures of your BMs and your FMIL together. Let this detail go because it's a non issue, she definitely can wear the same color as your BMs (and really navy is a very popular color so I'm sure more than one person will be wearing that particular color). 
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  • danceraa02danceraa02 member
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    edited December 2011
    thanks for the advice:)
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    edited December 2011
    It will be just fine. BOTH my Mom and my MIL wore dresses in shades of purple. Half of the BM's wore purple dresses. I was a bit upset at first, but quickly shrugged it off and forgot about it. All the pics turned out nicely and everything was just peachy.
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  • deepcovejackiedeepcovejackie
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    edited December 2011
    You FMIL's plan actually sounds like it will be very nice!
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  • LiaAliLiaAli
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    edited December 2011

    Let her wear what she wants ....both my mom and future MIL are wearing black dresses, just like my bridesmaids. There's just so many other things to worry about that this was not a major concern to me!

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  • Beachy730Beachy730 member
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    edited December 2011

    Ditto all the PPs.  And most likely her dress will be more of a Mother's dress, and I assume your BMs won't be.  If she said she was wearing the same dress as your BMs then that would be cause for concern, but you are fine.  And like another PP said, its likey that guests at the wedding will also be in navy.  My BMs wore short black dresses, and I can't even count how many of my guests did too.  Nobody confused them for BMs as far as I know, but if they did it really didn't matter. 

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  • trix1223trix1223 member
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    edited December 2011
    Your response to your FMIL is the response my adorable DIL gave me in this conversation:

    Me:  What do you want me to wear for the wedding?
    DIL:  whatever you feel beautiful and comfortable in.

    I love my DIL!  =)

    And I agree with the others:  not a single soul at your wedding is going to mistake your FMIL for a BM.  This is so not even worth thinking about.
    "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146
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  • Stella301Stella301
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    edited December 2011
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  • artbyallieartbyallie mod
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    edited December 2011
    Ditto pps. My bridesmaids will be in shades of blue, knee length dresses. My mom has chosen a knee-length blue dress. I doubt anyone will think she's a bridesmaid.
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  • filawfilaw member
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    edited December 2011
    Don't worry about it.  It's actually fairly common for MOB and MOG to wear "coordinating" dresses.

    Hey at least she's not dressing to match *you*.  It's happened.
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  • ambermorleyambermorley member
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    edited December 2011
    I was at a wedding this summer where the bridesmaids wore navy, and so did the Mother of the Groom. Looked great!
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  • danceraa02danceraa02 member
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    edited December 2011
    thank you for all of your advice:) Helped a lot!
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